Each child is different and the challenges each one offer to parents also vary, but there are certain discipline problems which are common. Discipline is a learning process and parents teach children to make good choices. Discipline can improve your child’s behaviour only when the environment is supportive and positive reinforcement strategies are applied.
Common Discipline Problems and Their Solutions
Let us take a look at the common
discipline issues of parents and their solutions.
1. Terrible Tantrums
Tantrums are exceedingly common among kids. Often it starts with frustration in the child and when she finds it working, it becomes a habit of getting things done according to her own wish. The worst thing is that you cannot completely stop
tantrums because it is a part of your child’s development. You should avoid giving in to them and eventually it will reduce and end.
2. Saying ‘NO’
Kids start using the word ‘NO’ for anything they want and continue to be obstinate because toddlers want to be in control. The best way to deal with this problem is to give your little one various options to choose from instead of asking her to do something.
3. Whining
Whining is a natural way for a child to express her frustration. The best way to stop this is to attend your child and give her a hug saying that you understand that she seems frustrated. Ask her to speak in normal tone and show that you do not understand what she says when she whines.
4. Constant Arguing
Normally, this problem starts when the child grows a little bit older. She will try to say anything just to persuade you. While stopping this would discourage the negotiating skill your child is developing, you definitely need a break from continuous debating. Using positive reinforcement, make sure you stick to your decision. Even if your child tries to present her argument in different ways, you have to stay strong.
5. Rudeness
If you find that your child is becoming rude, it means that she does not understand what kind of
behaviour is good and what is not appropriate. Limiting the amount of TV your daughter watches for some time would be good. Put strict limits on the type of shows she watches.
6. Talking Back
This problem makes parents unable to make even a simple request of their kids. Refuse to tolerate this because it is disrespectful. Do not allow your kids to be
disrespectful to other adults at home.
7. Not Listening
Many kids have the tendency to tune their parents out whenever they try to pass important information or instruction. Talk to your child only when you have her full attention.
8. Interrupting
The moment parents try to have a conversation with another adult, children interrupt. Explain to your child that interruption is rude and she should wait for her turn to talk. Teach her to say, excuse me, if it is something urgent.
9. Teasing
Teasing siblings or friends is common among some children. Explain your child that teasing is fun only when the other one is enjoying it. She should also understand that teasing someone with her physical appearance or physical problems is not acceptable. If the other child ends up crying, she should stop this and even apologize.
10. Bickering
Some children find it entertaining to argue and fight with siblings, but it is really annoying for the parents. You can stop this by making them understand that the next time you find them bickering, they will have to do some household chore like folding the laundry or anything that is needed to be done.
Just keep in mind that in order to help your kids learn acceptable and
appreciable behaviour, you will have to take some firm steps when they are still children. Discipline is not punishment. It teaches them boundaries and by correcting them, you are helping them in the long run.
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