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Why You Should Never Punish Your Kids Severely


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Sometimes it is necessary to punish children to teach them important life lessons. However, punishing them severely can have disastrous effects on their development. Read on to learn more about why you should never punish your child severely.

Punishing kids severely is a practice that has terrible long term consequences. Severe punishment is something that shatters the mental stability of a child. Children are innocent and they learn new things every day. So it is pretty natural that they will make mistakes at times because it is through these mistakes that they learn. So no matter what their mistakes are, severe punishment is absolutely unthinkable. There are numerous things that can happen to a child when they are given terrible punishments.
Here are the five most common things that happen to children who are subjected to cruel punishments frequently.

1. They Start Lying

If you start inflicting severe punishment on your child every time he or she makes mistakes, it will lead to a sort of fear bubbling inside them. Every time they make a mistake they will start denying it and will get into the habit of lying to save themselves from the punishment. This might then become a permanent habit, turning your child into a liar. So instead of helping them grow into good adults, you will instil one of the greatest faults in them.

2. The Ability to Learn is Damaged

If you subject your child to severe punishments like physical abuse or locking them into something, it often affects their ability to learn properly and swiftly. It slows down the process of comprehension which in turn leads to low IQs among these children. Later in life, this creates greater problems as your child will not be able to excel at work. Instead of a bright young one, you will be presented with a dull child.

3. They Lead to Psychological Problems

Severe punishments also affect the psychological state of a child. As they grow up in this atmosphere of severe punishment for every mistake they make, there is a kind of anger that grows within them. This anger then leads to a growth of an impaired personality. They stop socialising. They get angry easily. They also harbour a kind of hate for their parents for the rest of their lives. Would you want your child to hate you?

4. They Take to Hitting Others

If you hit or punish your child cruelly for their mistakes that is exactly what they will do to their children, family or peers when he or she grows up. Throughout their childhood they have learnt that hitting or locking in a room is the only way a person can get over their mistakes. This makes them dispassionate in nature and they hit others to prove their point. This way you are just adding an emotionally damaged individual into the society.

5. They Become Extremely Anxious

Severe punishment also makes a child extremely anxious. The fear of punishment makes them hesitate at every move they make. Their confidence level starts diminishing and they completely lose hope over time. They are always irritated and on their toes so as to not make a mistake. This affects their ability to think and to rest. They will slowly start painting you as their enemy in their heads which will ultimately lead to disastrous consequences.
So do not make the mistake of severely punishing your child for the mistakes they make, no matter how serious they are. Talk to them; make them understand the difference between wrong and right. Everyone knows that punishment is important for a child to learn an important lesson. But make sure that this punishment actually teaches them important life lessons instead of damaging them emotionally and physically. Let them grow into admirable people with good manners and qualities.

Is it necessary to punish children? What are the harmful effects of severe punishments on children? How to avoid punishing children? Discuss here.


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Barkha
Barkha.9 years ago
Parent-child relationship may get hampered due to severe punishments.
 
 
 
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Naina
Naina.9 years ago
Children can get hurt emotionally due to severe punishments.
 
 
 
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