Does your child bully? Do you get a lot of complains about your child bullying other children? There are several causes behind bullying in children. Read on to find more about the common causes of bullying in children.
One of the biggest questions that come in the minds of few parents is why children bully. Unfortunately there is no universal answer to this question. So, each child needs to be analysed individually. Children who are socially dominant, impulsive or those who get easily frustrated start bullying. Usually these children find bullying the best way to solve problem and gain a feeling of power.
Kids are sometimes cruel and there can be various reasons behind that. Usually it has been observed that child who bully have some or the other family issue. Most of them do not get proper attention and love at home. Also, the parents of some of these children use violence to solve problems.
Reasons why Children Bully
Have a quick look at the causes of bullying in children.
Violence or Verbal Abuse at Home
Children start bullying because they see violence very common at home. For them, communicating in this manner is quite normal and they think that they are simply acting out anger and frustration in the way other family members do. It will become very difficult to teach such child ways of communicating in a different and better way.
Hide Self Inabilities
Many children suffer from inferiority complex and in order to hide their self inabilities, they bully. Usually, this type of child does not want other children to become popular or perform better in any way. They humiliate them, make them feel embarrassed and devaluate them to prove that they are worthy. Bullies maintain their status by lowering that of others.
Some children are born bully and this can be seen right from the time he is a toddler. In these cases, child psychologists or psychiatrists, developmental therapists or occupational therapists can be consulted.
Children who are normally peace loving but turn out to bully others at a stage of life, means that he has been having a bad company in recent past. It also happens if nobody in the family shares love, feelings and belongings. If the family has a culture of violence, the peace loving child can turn out to be bullying after sometime.
Lack of Attention
Some children bully because they want to get attention from elders and others and they fell that even if it is negative, they have received attention. This makes the child become fully trained as a bully with passage of time and he never feels anything wrong in that.
Some children are otherwise cool and soft natured but seem to be turned out violent in recent past. There must be some temporary cause like a sudden death in family or of a close friend, divorce, boredom or frustration.
There are some parents that pamper their children and spoil them. For them there is nothing wrong in whatever their child does. This makes the child believe that all their demands will get accepted and they feel powered and feel good about themselves.
When dealing with any kind of bully, it is very important you go to the root cause of the behaviour. In fact, if the child is bullying this show that he has no control over his aggression and anger. He needs counseling so that he learns better ways of communicating and learns healthy ways of interacting with other people. Professional counseling can be really helpful here as it teaches the child to understand why bullying is harmful and wrong.