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my daughter is 9 yrs old but is too specific. she wants everything her way. Like she wants to have 100 charge on mobile and she just gets too obsessive about it. If she notices less charge, then she just gets hyper and angry and charges the mobile herself. sometimes it' s okay but this does not seem normal to me. sameera replied. hello nazima,
i had posted long time back, i read your post now, and i think that your daughter is 9 years old only, dont you think its so early stage to handle mobile by 9 years old daughter, and you given own mobile, you should check the mobile which she used, like you should check call list and sms also, this is the age in that age kids influence to do crime. firoz replied. Hi Nazima, kids do throw temper tantrums however i think your girl needs a check up done from the doctor as this is a bit abnormal. Try to take her to the psychiatrist who will help in changing the behavior of your daughter. NN replied. There are many things that can be responsible for an obsessive behavior and you should contact a child psychologist and tell her about your doctor as soon as you can and see what she has to say about your daughter behavior. NN replied. Acc to what you have explained about your daughter i think it is a simple case of OCD that is obsessive compulsive disorder. You should consult a psychologist to make sure there is no serious problem with your daughter's brain. Karan replied. Fulfill only those demands of her which are valid and should be fulfilled. If you keep agreeing to her demands and do things according to her will then this behavior of her's will keep increasing and she will get more adamant. Ashna replied. Adamant kids are very difficult to handle as they want everything to be done as and when they say and want it to be done. There can be 2 outcomes for this. She she grows either she'll get more adamant or less. Forum replied. Obsessive behavior is fine but when it gets out of hand it is not a good sign and should be consulted about from a doctor. She might be suffering from an OCD which means obsessive compulsive disorder and might need attention. No Name replied. Hi Nazima,
Some people will be stubborn only,they will try hard until they get it.So that it would be better try to convert it as a habit for good cause like studies and sports etc.But do not make her to move in a way that what ever she ask you would provide that. Kamini replied. Hi Nazima,
Your kid was obstinate and she is very specific about herself.So she is behaving in such way.But it is not good her because it would lead to heavy problem in future and you cannot provide all the things which ever she asks when she is strict about that. No Name replied. Hello Nazima,
I got your point, when she is so specific about the things then it would be creating a problem as she is growing. So better you make her understand for everything what she is doing.Explain to her. pk replied. she is just 9 year old and she is already having her mobile phone. why? you should check what she does on her mobile phone and of course it should be done with being friendly with her otherwise she will not let you know and learn to hide things from parents which will harmful for the future. vishesh shrivstava replied. Hi Nazima! Your daughter is just 9! Why does she have her own mobile? Does she behave in the same way for other things? It may be mild OCD or something similar if she displays the same behaviour for other things as well. If not, you would need to investigate as to what she does with her mobile. Does she text or call or is she addicted to some app or game. What is it that makes her need 100% charge all the time? ravina singh replied. Seems like she is displaying signs of mild OCD. What else does she insisit about? Order of things? One of my kid' s classmates has OCD and the teacher at Orchids was the one to spot it and now some behavioural therapy is underway for that child. Tell us more and also check with your padeiatrician to see if you can rule out OCD. Good Luck!
rishabh r replied. Hi Nazima,
I very well understand your concern. Try to be calm and kind with your kid when she spills her tantrum. Tell everything in a polite manner which will help her to understand it. Don’t try to change her at a stretch it might even worsen her behavior. If this didn’t work for you, then consult a good doctor.