Shyness can hinder the overall development of children. Read on to find
about the common causes of shyness and the difficulties which shy children may
children is exhibited when he or she feels inhibited or finds himself in unfamiliar
situations. It is also observed when the kid is interacting with others and
feels nervous when they perceive that they are on ‘show’. They feel shy and
begin to stammer or reluctant to speak if they have to converse with strangers.
They are more at comfort when they can be a viewer at the sidelines rather than
being a part of the action.
of Shyness in Children
Too much of
shyness can affect the child’s life in a major way:
Hindrances in Social Development - The much needed practice of his
social skills gets hindered. He in fact loses a lot many opportunities to
interact socially. As such he also ends up having lesser number of friends.
Poor Participation in
Extracurriculars - Since his interaction gets limited, his participation in school
extracurricular activities too are less and often nil. Any activity like
sports, drama or music that require interacting with each other is avoided by
the kid and his skills in them unfortunately never get tested.
Fear of Being Judged – Shy child is always under the
fear of being judged. As such he never expresses himself fully or at all. This
reduces his self esteem and gradually as he withdraws from all activities, he
begins to feel insecure and unimportant.
Stress and Anxiety- He is always under stress of what
others might be thinking of him. Thereby he becomes prone to anxiety disorders at an
early age.He also manifests a lot of the physical effects of anxiety like
excessive sweating, stammering, trembling of hands and feet and blushing.
of Shyness in Children
Now let us
see in brief the common causes of shyness
Hereditary – There is no reason to entail that shyness is a
hereditary disorder. But genetics do play a role due to the fact that if one of
the parents had been a victim of extreme shyness in his or her childhood, there
is s possibility that their kid might also be shy, but also grow out of it with
the help and in due time. Basically, the aspect comes down as an inherited part
of the genetic makeup of the kid.
Personality – It is often observed that sensitive and emotional
kids happen to be all the more shy too.
Copied Example – Children learn by copying their parents. Now if the
parents happen to exhibit shyness, the kids will also learn to be shy as they
accept their parents as their first role models.
Family Environment – Young minds always seek emotional and physical
security. So as a parent, if you happen to be inconsistent in your care-giving,
the child may not feel the desired secured sense of attachment with the family.
They remain anxious most of the time and are prone to shyness. Then again, if
you are extremely overprotective towards
your kid and always guard him while he is faced with any new situation, the kid
will show signs of shyness. This is because, he will never feel the confidence
to take on any challenges and feel lost whenever confronted with any sort of
or Inconsistent Social Interaction – This can happen due to a number of
reasons. If the kid happens to remain cut off from social get-together for a
considerable amount of time, due to health reasons for instance, he might be
initially shy to meet and talk to people. But a bit of support and
encouragement can readily help them grow out of it.
Criticism – Often parents and teachers criticise the child in an inappropriate
manner. For minor faults they might end up scolding the child a lot or compare
him persistently with his siblings or peers who
make them feel disgraced or unimportant. Even teasing and bullying results in
need to understand here is that most children do feel shy at a certain point of
time or during certain events, which is perfectly normal. As they grow accustomed
to the environment or become mature they usually grow out of it. But it is a
sure cause of worry if the kid feels shy all the time, so much so, that he is
unable to be his usual self for the most part of the day. Professional help
might be required, but in most cases, parents can effectively help their kid to
overcome the shyness, with a little help, support and patience.
What causes shyness in children? What are the difficulties faced by children
due to shyness? How to help children overcome shyness? Discuss here.