Don't Talk to Strangers

In this articleIts a big bad worldWary, but not scaredTips to make your child street smart and savvyIts a big bad world Children, for the most part, think that the world is a delightful place to be explored. Life is particularly enjoyable as everyone they meet tends to cosset and pamper them. Some children are temperamentally shy or wary of strangers, but generally they are trusting and friendly, responding to any positive overtures made to them. We all know its a big bad world out there. Every day the newspapers are filled with gruesome stories of killing, kidnapping and abuse. Parents worry about letting their children out of their sight. But you cant always protect your children from every possible danger. Another point that parents should keep in mind is that children do not necessarily have to leave their homes to be mistreated. Its hard to believe but in many cases, child abuse and neglect often happen in the home itself and family members or close friends have been found to be the perpetrators. However, such cases are the exception rather than the norm. Wary, but not scared Given this scenario, its no wonder that parents are filled with trepidation. They realize that their children will have to move out from under their wing sooner rather than later. It is important that they do not transfer their fears to their children so that they become scared of their own shadows, afraid to go out and face the world. The need of the hour is to make children street smart and savvy, not scared. The world should be a beautiful place for them, not one where there is a bogeyman around every corner and where every stranger is a villain. Tips to make your child street smart and savvy Be calm and matter-of-fact when laying down guidelines about how to act around strangers. There is no point giving them the impression that every stranger should be looked upon with extreme suspicion as they are bound to mean harm. Discuss this issue like you would any other safety issue such as playing with fire or crossing the road. If youre leaving your children with a friend or relative, make it a point to repeat the instructions to them too in front of your children. Tell your children never to accept a lift, or any offers for food or invitations to play without first taking your permission or permission of the adult they are with. Tell them not to talk to strangers. They should also avoid playing or walking alone. They should always stick to a group of children. If for some reason they are alone at home and the doorbell rings, they should not open the door. Similarly, if a stranger telephones when they are alone at home they should just take a message without volunteering any information or indicating that they are alone. Engage in role-play occasionally. Tell your children to pretend that youre a stranger trying to talk to them in a street and ask them what they would do. Do not create fear in their minds by going into graphic detail about all the terrible things that can happen to them if they talk to strangers. Test your children by getting a friend to telephone your house pretending to be a stranger when you are out and see how your children handle the situation.

It's a big bad world

Children, for the most part, think that the world is a delightful place to be explored. Life is particularly enjoyable as everyone they meet tends to cosset and pamper them. Some children are temperamentally shy or wary of strangers, but generally they are trusting and friendly, responding to any positive overtures made to them.

We all know it's a big bad world out there. Every day the newspapers are filled with gruesome stories of killing, kidnapping and abuse. Parents worry about letting their children out of their sight. But you can't always protect your children from every possible danger. Another point that parents should keep in mind is that children do not necessarily have to leave their homes to be mistreated. It's hard to believe but in many cases, child abuse and neglect often happen in the home itself and family members or close friends have been found to be the perpetrators. However, such cases are the exception rather than the norm.

Wary, but not scared

Given this scenario, it's no wonder that parents are filled with trepidation. They realize that their children will have to move out from under their wing sooner rather than later. It is important that they do not transfer their fears to their children so that they become scared of their own shadows, afraid to go out and face the world. The need of the hour is to make children street smart and savvy, not scared. The world should be a beautiful place for them, not one where there is a bogeyman around every corner and where every stranger is a villain.

Tips to make your child street smart and savvy

• Be calm and matter-of-fact when laying down guidelines about how to act around strangers. There is no point giving them the impression that every stranger should be looked upon with extreme suspicion as they are bound to mean harm.
• Discuss this issue like you would any other safety issue such as playing with fire or crossing the road.
• If you're leaving your children with a friend or relative, make it a point to repeat the instructions to them too in front of your children.
• Tell your children never to accept a lift, or any offers for food or invitations to play without first taking your permission or permission of the adult they are with.
• Tell them not to talk to strangers.
• They should also avoid playing or walking alone. They should always stick to a group of children.
• If for some reason they are alone at home and the doorbell rings, they should not open the door.
• Similarly, if a stranger telephones when they are alone at home they should just take a message without volunteering any information or indicating that they are alone.
• Engage in role-play occasionally. Tell your children to pretend that you're a stranger trying to talk to them in a street and ask them what they would do.
• Do not create fear in their minds by going into graphic detail about all the terrible things that can happen to them if they talk to strangers.
• Test your children by getting a friend to telephone your house pretending to be a stranger when you are out and see how your children handle the situation.