Children who do not understand the value of things, do not respect others and get the freedom to do whatever they want often go out of control. Let us take a look at the common reasons why children go out of control.Parents keep complaining about their children not listening to them at all. Most of the time little children do not obey what their parents instruct them. If parents ask them not to do something, children have the tendency of doing the exact same thing. It might really not be out of malice, but the misdeeds are done.
Parents cannot keep monitoring their children all the time. Most parents are working these days and hardly have time to spare. As a result of their
disobedience the parents get complaints from teachers. Such children can grow up to be out of control teenagers and adults. Their habits can often lead them into danger. It is often baffling as to what causes children to go out of control. Here are some reasons why children go out of control.
Being Too Soft with Kids
Couples tend to have one or two children at the most these days. It is not unusual for them to indulge their kids. They really do not have the heart to scold their little darlings. These lead to children believing that this is the norm. They feel that no matter what they do, they will be indulged. Parents are also absent from home the major of the day. The little time they get with their kids, they do not wish to spend it
scolding and
disciplining their kids. In the meanwhile they forget to maintain a balance between being too soft and being too strict with kids.
The nannies the kids stay with are also instructed to be gentle with the kids. Kids are also extremely sensitive these days. Little things affect them so much. As a result they are indulged and all their little mischief is accepted. Soon they feel that nothing they do will be reprimanded by anyone. They freely misbehave and go out of control.
Prohibition on Teachers
The laws these days have prohibited teachers from reprimanding or laying hands on the students. Such practices should be censored when it comes to elder students because they develop a sense of self-esteem. However, when kids are small at times such practices actually help the kids. Kids need to be disciplined. Their parents might not get time or feel the need to discipline their kids but teachers should.
A lot of discipline was taught to children at school in older times. Now however kids are being indulged both at home and at school leading them to believe that they are beyond censure. These in turn makes them out of control teenagers and adults. You cannot really discipline a twenty year old. The damage has been done.
Television
A lot of shows these days involve teenagers and kids that are openly disobeying their parents. This kind of behaviour is applauded and presented as cool and hip. Kids who watch these shows imbibe such attitudes. They try to behave like the characters in the television.
Even a lot of violence that is shown in television gives kids wrong ideas. Kids see these in their formative years and it harms their whole mindset. They come to believe that such way is correct. When they are thwarted they go out of control and show
bad behaviour.
Mistakes of Grandparents
Not all but some grandparents spoil kids. They stop the parents from reprimanding the kids too much. When parents scold children, grandparents take the side of children. Many kids grow up at their grandparents’ house and are spoilt to bits. They are given a free reign. When they grow up, that becomes a habit for them.
They listen to no one and do what they wish to. No amount of
punishment and scolding works. If too many restrictions are imposed on them, they resort to drastic measures. Many cases have been heard where kids threaten to take their parents to court if they try to curb their freedom.
A lot of juvenile violence is result when children go out of control. Parents should discipline them from their childhood to avoid negative consequences later. And the most important thing is that the discipline should be followed by everyone.
Why do some children go out of control? How can parents prevent kids from going out of control? What are the ways to deal with children who go haywire? Discuss here.