It is very challenging to imbibe
effective parenting skills easily. Here are some guidelines to enhance your
parenting skills to raise happy, healthy and responsible children.
Parenting a kid has
never been an easy task. There are so many opinions and options on how to raise a kid and the “right” way to bring up
a child that we are more often than not, utterly confused on what indeed is the
You will have a horde of
relatives, well wishers and other parents, who scream to have gone through and
done that, along with media, which is always eager to provide opinion on what
should be your guidelines. But as most experts and parents would say, it is
basically instinctively decided on what ought to be the correct approach.
There is nothing to get
overwhelmed. Here are some simple facts that will help you manage and hone your
parenting skills with ease:
Understand the Situation
Before Arriving at the Conclusion
When we come across
situations where parents are simply unable to get along with their kids, are
found to stem from the fact that they have been unable to assess the situation
correctly. This understanding is expected from parents as they are mature
individuals and obviously more mentally evolved than the kid.
The children behave
erratically as they are over stimulated. They appear to be wired due to this
very fact that they are being exposed to the outside world with great speed and
thus overwhelmed with so many aspects and facets that they discover each day,
consciously or unconsciously. So as parents, it falls upon you to put yourself
in their shoes and understand that they need support for mental stability at
this age. Do not be judgmental when faced with a situation that is not to your
liking. Rather try to look at the situation from their point of view.
Communicate With Your
This means that you need
to communicate often and more clearly in order to be a great parent. You are the first people that
the child has known since he has started developing his senses. Therefore, you
are the closest people that the child has known since birth. This is ample
reason for you to be the best friend of your kid.
Make the kid feel
comfortable whenever he is communicating with you. Help the kid share his
feelings and thoughts with ease. The manner in which you interact with your kid
will ensure that the child does not feel uncomfortable in talking and sharing
his inner feelings with you. Be casual and friendly. Even if you discover that
the child is not thinking or acting in the right manner, refrain from being
reproachful. Such an attitude will drive the child away from you emotionally.
This is perhaps the most
important aspect of effective parenting. Kids naturally have a volatile
temperament. The reason being, that they are growing up in an extremely
stimulating environment. With new discoveries made every minute, they are
constantly overwhelmed with the facts and realities of life. So it is quite
natural that they will time and again falter with what is desired of them in terms of correct action and behaviour. So you need to explain them on
where they are going wrong. Explain to them in a manner and attitude that
drives your point but at the same time, you are not apprehended as aloof,
inconsiderate and overtly strict. Now be patient as your kid takes his time in
understanding your point. Repeat yourself as required.
Finally, make sure that
you lead through example. Kids learn their first lessons from their immediate
environment. And you are the principle character in his immediate environment.
Do remember that you are constantly being watched. Even if unconsciously the
kid always is noticing you, the way you are talking, behaving, doing certain
actions or the way you are conducting yourself. Kids are great imitators too.
They take a hint regarding their behaviour and actions primarily on what they
find happening around them. So be careful that you do not end up giving wrong
signals to the kid!