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How to Avoid Hitting Children?

Hitting children is not going to help you in any way to inculcate discipline in your children. Here are 6 things that you must remember to avoid hitting your children.

Do you think that hitting children will enable them to choose the right path in life and develop good behaviours? In fact hitting children will make the situation even worse and enhance their stubbornness in each activity they do. Many children lose a good bonding with parents when they are being slapped or beaten. There are many other ways to understand children and raise them without hitting. Life lessons can be taught to children in constructive ways as well. So, you must remember the below mentioned 6 things so that you can avoid hitting your children. 

1. Set Right Examples

Parents are the primary role models for children and therefore, they must set good examples for them. If there are some rules formulated for children, then it is mandatory for the parents to follow the same. When such rules are ignored by the elders at home, children do not give too much of importance to those rules. They too start ignoring such rules and regulations. For example, when a one of the parents is simply lying to his or her boss through phone, kids easily grab such behaviour and stick to telling lies whenever required. And when parents mark such behaviour in children they resort to hitting them. So, the episodes of hitting can be avoided if good behaviour is cultivated in children by setting right examples.

2. Allocate Time to Think

If children do any wrong activity, give some time to them to sit and relax. Do no burst out of anger and thrash them to a black room of punishment. A good time-out gives a chance to children to think and realize their mistakes. After sometime, discuss the problems faced and provide right guidance. Hitting or punishing children will make them think about the negative part and distract them from realizing the truth.

3. Give Yourself Some Space

When you think that there is a chance that you will get angry on your children and are about to hit them, relax for few minutes and give yourself some space. Divert children from the existing stressful situation and engage them into some interesting games, outings or dining with special dishes. Once you and your children are cool and calm, you can have a discussion to sort out the issues. Reinforce the principles which are important to lead a happy and a decent life instead of hitting children.

4. Spend Time with Children

Though you are very busy with official and personal work, it is good to spend some time with children. Get to know what is happening around them either at home, school or at the extracurricular classes that they have joined. Communicate with them and try to find out the challenges that they are facing. Encourage them to speak so that they do not hide any important issue. Talk freely with your children and encourage them to come-up with solution for all their problems. By being involved with children, chances of stressful situations are avoided. In such cases the need for using hitting as the means of punishing children may not arise.

5. Punish in a Constructive Manner

In case if you are dealing a very naughty children and intolerable behaviour, it is better to punish in a constructive manner. Punishments like not allowing them to play or watch TV or like making them help you in household chores can be used instead. It will help them to realise their mistakes. Beating, punching, slapping, pinching or boxing are some of the harsh methods of punishing children which can damage their self-esteem.

6. Focus on Positives

Try to focus on the positive activities performed by the kids and try to correct the negative ones. Kids are not aware of all the good and bad behaviours as they are not as matured as parents are. Parents need to teach them every single manner and behaviour. Hence, it is not good to expect them to be 100% perfect as it not possible for any human being to be like that. Parents must make sure to be calm and patient when they handle their children’s tantrum. They must reward children when they perform an appreciable task. This kind of approach can motivate children to behave well and the incidents of harsh punishments can be avoided.

If you are unable to handle your anger which eventually leads you to hit and spank your children, you must seek help from experienced people or counsellors. There are many effective options to raise well-behaved children. Hitting or using some violent ways to punish children is only going to harm them. So, use some positive and constructive ways to help them realise their mistakes and adopt good behaviour.

Why do parents hit children? How to punish children in a constructive manner? What are the harmful effects of hitting children? Discuss here.

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Amish.1 year ago
Hitting is very bad, it can harm children.
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