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Discipline Your Kids Without Raising Your Voice

Parents often think that the only way they can make their kids listen to them is by shouting. Read on to learn to take down your volume and enjoy better behaviour by knowing about disciplining kids without raising your voice.

There are times when kids drive you crazy and you think that they are always misbehaving. It is obvious that you lose your control. After all you cannot accept that your child’s behaviour is not appropriate. You want your child to be the best in the world and this is the reason why you opt for some unacceptable ways of disciplining her as well.

It is the time you learn how to stay calm and improve your child’s behaviour in a better way. Often parents shout at children out of sheer frustration. Eventually this becomes a bad habit for most parents. Remember, raising your voice to discipline children can lead to more behavioural problems in long run.

Tips to Help Discipline Kids Without Raising Your Voice

Here is how you can discipline kids without raising your voice.

1. Know Yourself

It is very important that you know yourself with a different perspective. If you are stressed or frustrated at something, even your kid’s behaviour; take some time to calm down. It is obvious that being parents brings additional responsibilities and perhaps keeps you on the toes whole day.

If you find that you are shouting or yelling at your kid because you are angry or frustrated, you should learn strategies to calm down your emotions. You can be a role model for obtaining healthy anger management strategies. So, take a time out for yourself and wait until you are calm enough to discipline your child.

2. Know Your Child

Children are different right from infancy. Also, all of us have good kids; it is only that their behaviour sometimes shrinks. You need to understand your child and if you find any kind of unacceptable behaviour, you need to find out the reason behind it.

Kids learn a lot of things while playing. They easily get crushed if they find that any of their parents is angry. So, try to talk to your kids and make them understand what they are expected to do. Make them understand the rules and consequences of bad behaviour beforehand.

3. Use Age-Appropriate Discipline Strategies

When you are raising a child it is very important you understand what can be expected from her at the age she is. Discipline strategies should be always age related. Just keep in mind that the way you treat your infant, toddler or a pre-schooler it affects their behaviour. Children start recognizing their parents and their attitudes right from infancy.

When your child is a toddler, discipline is mostly about patience, inflexibility and endless repetition. They are very young to remember their dos and don’ts and you have to repeat every time they do anything unacceptable. Always keep in mind that you are not supposed to yell or raise your voice at any cost. You have to deal with everything patiently.

4. Find Out the Subject of Fight

There should be no word “fight” between parents and kids, yet often parents get involved in unnecessary arguments with their kids. In fact, teaching children about skills and behaviour pattern needs lots of repetition. Make sure this does not turn out into nagging because it will leave a negative impact on your child’s mind. Just make up your mind that you will have to constantly repeat time and again what your child needs to do and what is not expected from them.

5. Address the Behaviour

Always stay focused on what you want your child to understand. Let things expected from your child be clear to her. Teach your child why a specific behaviour was bad and what the consequences could be. Make sure you never relate any behavioural problem with something similar in the past. This may have worse effect.

6. Be a Role Model

Since you want your child to behave well always, you need to focus on your behaviour too. Kids follow their parents and if you yell or shout at your kids every now and then, she will not find raising voice is not acceptable. So, be a role model by being consistent and calm. Along with setting rules for your kids, you need to set some rules and limits for yourself too.

7. Stay Calm When Giving Behaviour Directions

When you are making your children learn and understand the rules and limits, make sure you use a firm but soft tone to give behaviour directions. Always keep in mind calm and firm directions will work better and last long in your kid’s mind. Your child will listen to you more carefully.

8. Listen to Your Child

If you find that your child has not behaved as expected, you should listen to what your child wants to say. Before you lose your cool you need to know what is causing the behaviour. Often kids misbehave because either they do not understand how to express their feelings or need attention from their parents. Take some time and teach your child how to express her feelings in positive manner.

9. Make Clear Rules and Limits

When you are disciplining your child, remember that empty threats and nagging do not work. You have to have a definite set of rules and make your child understand what is expected from her. This will save you from yelling and getting frustrated as well.

10. Follow Through

Since kids require constant reminders, you need to make sure that the rules set by you are followed properly. Do not hesitate to make your kids go through the consequences so that they know you mean what you say. This will help them understand and become better as well as appreciable individuals in society when they grow up.

In addition to the above tips, you should try spending some quality time with your children. Praise them if they have tried to behave better any day. Your child will put in more effort seeing that you noticed her try and appreciated her genuine effort.

All the above actions and behaviour will help make your relationship stronger. Your child will follow and accept things more because she will have great respect for you. If you feel like yelling, just think how you would feel when someone yelled at you. Just make sure you teach your kids what is adequate without making them feel ashamed or embarrassed.

Moreover, remember that no one is perfect. So, no matter how you try it is possible you may slip and yell at your children sometimes. This will happen in the beginning. But with time you will surely learn the art of raising kids without raising voice. Explain to your kids what frustrates you and ask them to behave in a better way so that you stay cool and they too enjoy life. However, next time you feel the same way, take a deep breath and think what you want your child to learn and they convey your message effectively.

Why is it important for parents to be calm and composed? How can parents avoid yelling and screaming at kids? What are the ways to discipline kids without raising voice? Discuss here.

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Manthan.3 years ago
It is important to talk to kids decently...very nice tips on disciplining kids without raising voice.
Preeti.3 years ago
Yelling or raising voice at kids is of no use because they will not understand anything unless explained to them calmly
Siya.3 years ago
Raising voice while talking to kids is a wrong parenting method.
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