Parents can play a vital role in helping
teenagers deal with peer pressure. Read on to find tips for helping your child
to cope with peer pressure.
Dealing with peer pressure starts by accepting that
it is a reality of life that cannot be hushed under the carpet or be
overlooked. For a child who is growing up and is just making his first hand
contact with the outside world, it is very important for him to feel close to
his peer group.
A child spends most of his waking hours in the
company of his peers and not his family. Therefore, it is natural that he will
value their comments and opinions to a great extent. During the adolescent
period there is this desire to fit into a group and be accepted as a part of
it. In this attempt the child imbibes the groupâ€™s attitude and ideologies even
if they are contrary to his family values.
to Deal with Peer Pressure
Given below are a few tips on how you can help your
child deal with peer
a Friend and Be Democratic in Your Approach
Explain the fact to your kid that you understand how
important it is for him to belong to a peer group. Say that companionship is a
social mechanism and one should always be an active participant in this
process. This will make the kid comfortable in discussing all his peer issues
Kids rely more on peer groups when they feel
isolated from their families. It is a psychological fact that during the adolescent
period, all the kids find friendship
appealing and not an autocratic parent heaving down constantly at all his
activities. So adapt yourself with this change in expectations and become a
friend to your kid.
Before You Set Limitations
Limitations are important to maintain discipline.
But before you set down certain rules make it a point that you sit down with
your kid. Tell him how it is important to maintain a disciplined
life and how a set of positive rules can render a good impact on his academic
and social being and help him career wise, health wise and even emotionally.
Kids are much more mature than what parents consider
them to be. You will be surprised to find that they can readily understand your
positive intent and will be ready to comply with the set of rules. But if try
to impose authority, there are chances that it will backfire. Adolescents do not
like to be dictated and it is a natural reverse action for them when they feel
that it is best to retaliate by breaking rules.
The Importance of Values Through Practice
Values act as a protective shield against negative
peer pressure and the most effective way to deal with it is by practicing what
you are promoting. Even as your kid grows up into a teen, he or she is still
observing your actions and taking cue from them. When they observe that you are
leading a life of positive values
and not compromising them under any circumstances they will gradually learn the
importance of upholding values. Explain how positive role models are important
His Self Confidence
Rejection by the peer group can cause a deep dent in
the self-confidence of your child. While dealing with peer pressure it is
important to ensure that the child has enough self-confidence in himself.
Praise him for all his achievements and do not be humiliating towards his
failures. Rather egg him on and say that you have confidence in his abilities.
Help him take decisions, do not intervene or pass judgments on minor matters.
The more he is assured of your support the more he will develop the strength to
deal with negative peer pressure.
Parents can play an important role to help children deal with negative peer
pressure. At the same time it is essential for parents to follow what they