A teenager may even indulge in sexual activities due to negative peer pressure.
Here are some facts about peer pressure and sex and parenting tips for helping
teenagers cope with it.
The fact that the age at which teens
is having sex for the first time is getting lower and lower with each passing
year. Blame it on the rapidly globalised or fast paced lifestyle or the
inability of the parents to be with their kids for 24x7 or the slackening of
the societal morals, it is a fact that cannot be ignored. According to behavioural
psychologists, in majority of the cases where a teen has sex very is due to
negative peer pressure. Peer pressure
is a predominant factor in a teen’s life. For a teen it is extremely important
to ‘fit in’ to a group and be accepted by it. Sex is one of the activities that
a teen is encouraged or coerced to engage in as otherwise they are subtly made
to be feel ‘un-cool’ or uptight and thereby lose popularity.
Figures on Sex And Peer Pressure
It has been found in a number of
studies involving teen psychology and their corresponding behaviour in society
that when guys reach the age of 15 or 17, they are made to feel that having sex
is very important in order to prove that they have grown up into a man. This is
indeed a very harmful coercion as the boys are at their puberty stage where a
number of changes are taking place in their hormones. They are gradually coping
with the physical changes and are exploring themselves in a whole new way. They
are far from matured individuals. Further, in this phase it is easy to lure a
teen as they are already overwhelmed by this mad rush of hormones in their
bodies. Being immature they are not able to realise the impact of early sexual
behaviour and how it might affect their future health and relationships.
Girls in their teens are reportedly
under a lesser peer pressure as far as sexual activity is concerned. The
puberty changes in the body as true for the adolescent girls as it is with
boys. They are also not aware of safe sex methods, pregnancy issues
and above all the mental repercussions of the act.
What Can Parents Do?
Act With Caution
In order to effectively deal with
peer pressure and sex, parents need to act more maturely and responsibly. In
the current scenario sex is out there everywhere. One can find it screaming
through the advertisement billboards, television commercials and serials,
movies and above all there is the internet. So it is just not logically
possible to shun the presence of media from the kid’s life. Further any attempt
to cut him off from them which are also serious sources of information will
have a negative impact on their developmental faculties.
So Take the Monster Head On
This process actually starts with
the early conditioning of the kid. Start by teaching the value system
to the kid much before the peer pressure scenario actually starts in his or her
life. Teach the kid that is essential to adhere to certain principles and that
these are a part of self-discipline.
But do not come across as a mere moral preacher.
Be Practical Enough to Cite Logical Reasons
Explain how important it is to
observe abstinence till one is physically and mentally mature. Talk about
health concerns. Teach her that sexual intercourse does not end being just a
physical act. It ought to be a responsible behaviour as the psychological state
of the person is also a matter of concern.
You need to instill confidence
and self-belief in your child. Help him understand that it is very important to
respect one’s body and command the respect of other’s as well on the same. One
should not allow anyone else to abuse it and it is not a mark of good
understanding to commoditise it. It is then that they realise that it is
possible not to relent to peer pressure in such issues.