The desire to indulge in sex or being sexually active is fuelled by peer pressure during teenage. Find out how to help teenagers to cope with peer pressure and sex.
Teenage is fun and exciting, but it comes with its own baggage of issues. There are certain invariable components in a teen’s life: peer pressure, dealing and coping with them and making certain choices when the options are almost infinite are just a couple of them. This period of adolescence
is one when the teen is gradually beginning to know and come face to face with a lot of realities, the realities of life, the physiological changes and deal with the impact that these realisations cause on their mental setup.
When the hormones are rushing, the teen requires a support base to settle on, soothe him and gain composure. As they get to feel and see the changes taking place in their bodies, the urge to experiment and explore rises further. They feel the desire to indulge in sex and here, peer pressure can play an extremely negative role in the teen’s life. The teen needs to hold on to his support base for assurance and be equipped with the right awareness so that he can make informed choices.
Peer Pressure for Sex
The peer group is present in every teen’s life. Now, it is a different matter whether they are of the one that is conducive to the wellness or otherwise. If the peer group is already saddled with some undesired characteristics, i.e. they are themselves immersed in troubled behaviour and actions concerning underage sex, then your teen needs to be made able to cope and deal with this peer pressure effectively.
Why do They Fall in This Pressure
Being sexually active is portrayed as being ‘cool’. Thus the pressure of giving in comes from the primary objective of fitting into the group. In the current scenario, sexually explicit content is readily available in the regular media and pornography is out in the open like never before. So you would not even imagine segregating your growing teenager from the reach of these options.
In a peer group, as it is mostly found, teens exchange information on sex and on other related details on the opposite sex and the urge to ‘try it out’ generates. Building friendships for dating, and then moving on to sex are perceived to be ‘natural’ and ‘cool’. Here it is not unnatural for the teen to take this bait of ‘trying it out’. There is also this idea that they are not ‘man enough’ until they have done it, and if a girl is not sexually active, there’s something fishy about her sexual orientation, etc.
The Curiosity Factor Fuelled By the Environment
As mentioned earlier, sexual content is available in varied proportions in every form of the media and with the easy and frequent use of the internet, getting a hold on such content is extremely easy. When the teen is gradually getting to experience the changes taking place in their bodies and minds, they actually require a consolidated mental support. The feeling of titillation that the teen experiences during sex-talk makes him urge for the experience and then, the peer group is there to propel this desire. The teenage is a period when the individual craves for attention and acceptance. Sex is one such condition and action where this craving is instantly gratified.
Awareness is The Key
As a parent or guardian you can help the teen cope with peer pressure and sex by making him aware of all related information. The manner in which the physiological changes taking place in the bodies of the boys and girls as they reach adolescence, and the whole purpose of these changes, the manner in which these changes can affect our lives, and what are the aspects that we need to keep in mind once we are beginning to ‘grow up’.
Finally, help the teen understand that sex is not something that he or she ought to be pressurised into. It should be one’s informed decision. Restraint and using good judgement is some of the aspects that need to be explained in detail to the teen so that he or she learns to be accountable for his or her action.
Be a pleasant companion to your teen. Encourage him to share his queries and feelings with you unreservedly, provide him with genuine answers and do not behave as it is a shady topic to talk about or cringe at the mention of it. Awareness alone can help the teen cope with peer pressure related to sex quite effectively.