With the arrival of a baby everything else takes a backseat. The relationship between husband and wife goes in for a toss. Is it possible to bring back the lost magic? Read on and bring the spark back into your life.
Between your children, your home and your work there is little time for your husband and you. Here is the way you can recapture the magic of the past?
There are times that we long to do the simplest things with our spouses – a walk in the park, a movie, even a simple conversation. With a little bit of organisation, there is no reason why we should not.
Put Your Children to Early Bed
Are you so guilty about your job that you come home and spend as much time as possible with the children? Nothing wrong with that, its just that most working couples invariably put their children to bed later than they should, on the grounds that they can spend more time together. Little children should be asleep by 8 o’ clock. If you are putting your children to bed late, it is no wonder that you and your spouse do not have time for each other. Needless to say, children too, require adequate amounts of sleep. Putting the children to bed at a proper time will give you and your husband more time with each other.
Do Some Chores Together
Consider doing some chores together. Or instance, one of you can wash dishes whilst the other one dries and puts them away. Connecting with each other even during the most mundane of chores can be fun.
Keep-Up the Interaction
Most importantly, communicate more with each other. Do not answer in monosyllables. “How was work today?” “OK”. Take the trouble to tell each other about your day. Talk about anything, your boss, office politics, the commute home. You will stay in touch with each other.
Do Not Avoid Short Trips
Surely you dream about escaping your rather ordinary lifestyle with a wonderful holiday just for two in some exotic locale. This may not always be possible to do (but just do it, if you can!). You may have to compromise by going away for just the weekend to the resort nearest your home with the kids. Do go ahead. It will still be a break which will refresh yourselves and your relationship.
You can also spice up your life in little ways. Send him a love note in his tiffin box. Dedicate a song to him on the radio. Go for a jog together. Buy him an absolutely frivolous gift. Get him a gadget or a CD of his favourite music. Organise yourself some baby sitting and go out on a romantic date, movie, dinner, the works. If you can’t get out, then plan a special dinner with good wine and music right at home after the children are asleep. Do remember, great marriages do not happen automatically.