Good parenting is when the child gets love and affection of both the parents. Parenting is the most rewarding experience but if one has to single handedly manage a child then it becomes tiring and frustrating. Read on to find how you can include the father in bringing up the child especially when you are a working mother.
Why should mothers bringing up the child single-handedly? After all, are not fathers parents too?
This seems to be the most fundamental inequality of all. Though society is now accepting of working mothers, we still believe that it is the mother who is primarily responsible for the children. You will both put in equal amounts of time at work. Then you will come home and put in more work at home, quite on your own.
What You Need to Think for Getting Help from Spouse
You have to get your husband to contribute to the household chores without being a strident nagger. Think about where you need the help. Take into account the kind of person your husband is. Will he prefer to help with the kids or the kitchen? Is he patient? Does he arrive from work so tired that he is irritable for the first hour? Can he tackle the kids’ homework such that he can make it enjoyable for them?
What Kind of Help can You Get From Your Spouse
The fact is that both of you do look forward to coming home and upon arrival you both need just a little time off before you get pulled into the vortex of The Domestic Situation. Set aside certain tasks for your husband to do daily. Let them be jobs that he does not have a big problem with. If he is eased into the home environment gently, rather than having it thrust upon him at the door, he is more likely to do his share of the tasks willingly.
Your spouse can read the children stories, brush their teeth, give them baths, put them to bed, clear the table, dry the clothes, etc, much better, if he is not crotchety upon his arrival home. In fact, he will, over time, even look forward to the hours he spends at home, with his kids, doing chores in the evenings.
Handling Children after Work
Do remember though, that 7 pm to 9 pm are the witching hours where children are hungry and tired and therefore on their worst behaviour and fatigued parents too, have used up all their patience and feel their most murderous towards their children. Feed and put the children into bed well in time so that the two of you could have some meaningful time together before you collapse into a slumber.