Your daughter and you have a lovely relationship.  You have great times together after you get back from work.  It is just that homework time is spent shouting at each other.  You want to get it over with and she does not want to do it at all.  You are thinking of getting in a tuition teacher to help her with homework. All working mothers feel if they are doing it right or not by getting a tuition teacher. Read on to find couple of solutions for this problem.

Very few children can possibly look forward to homework.  In addition, your daughter may also see her homework as impinging on time that can be spent doing something enjoyable – like hanging around with you.  In all likelihood, the shouting and unpleasantness must double the time taken to do the work making her resent it even more.

Find the Root Cause behind Shouting 

Examine why the shouting starts.  Are you being too strict or inflexible?  Is she avoiding doing it altogether or just postponing it?  Are there times in the day that she is more agreeable to finishing it?  Are there certain subjects she resents more than others?  If you can change the circumstances under which the homework is being done, you will be able to improve the situation.  Talk to your daughter when she is in a good mood.  Let her suggest ways in which homework can be done without any negativity.  Try out different tactics, making it fun or interesting.

Get a Tuition Teacher if You Cannot Manage 

If all else fails, you could consider getting yourself a teacher to come in and help her.  Agree between your daughter and yourself whether this should only be a short term measure.  Set yourselves a period after which you will review the need for the teacher.  There have been many instances of mother and child relationships blossoming once the homework – studies issue has been delegated to someone else.

What to Do When Both the Parents are Working Late?  

My husband is a restaurateur and I am a doctor.  We both work very long and odd hours.  Our careers are important to both of us.  Consequently, though we try to juggle our schedules, we really are not spending too much time at home.  Are we being terrible parents?

Your husband and you both need to understand this.  You can find great help and delegate the job of bringing up your children, but the final responsibility of bringing up healthy, happy children lies with you two. 

Make Sure that Children are Looked After - Given that you are both not at home very much, you have to somehow ensure that your children are adequately looked after.  Presumably, you have marvellous help, who will wake your children, feed them, send them to school and all their classes, help them with their studies and problems, supervise their social schedules, brush their teeth and put them to bed.  And love them.  And encourage them when required; cheer them up when they are down.

Children can do remarkably well with very little attention from their parents.  However, the two of you are spending some time with them albeit after juggling your schedules.  Make an effort to make the little time that you spend with them count for something.  Ensure that they feel loved and wanted.

You could make the weekends special.  You can also take time off for a long annual holiday.  Do make timetables so that there is no confusion as to when your presence is needed. Very tight schedules lead to some amount of stress.  Do take care that this stress is not passed on to the children.