Getting homework done regularly needs the combined efforts of parents and children. Getting homework done on time should be made a routine and a fun experience for the child. Here are some ways by which parents can get homework done with ease. Read on.
Being a working mother, I try to help my daughter with her homework, but we just end up screaming or fighting. What am I doing wrong?
The purpose of homework is to reinforce what has been taught at school. It is also an opportunity for a student to catch up on what he has missed and clear out his doubts or misgivings about any particular topic. Hopefully, your presence serves to help him to understand better and more fully what has been taught at school and give him the confidence to deal with the tests and additional information that invariably follows.
You should aim at gaining the maximum benefit from doing homework while reducing the stress associated with getting it done. Try and understand what sets off the screaming that comes with the doing of homework. Is your daughter too tired? Are her worst moods associated with only certain subjects? Are you stopping your child from engaging in some enjoyable activity and switching her to homework mode? Is the screaming stemming from the lack of self confidence of your child to get the homework done well? Are you the one that is being short tempered?
How to Get Homework Done without Shouting
You could take some of the following steps to try getting homework done in a calmer fashion.
Get Involved -
Maybe your daughter is finding the homework too overwhelming. It is a fact that if a child’s parents are involved in her education
, the child will do better. You are in a better position to understand how your child is coping in school if you involve yourself in her homework. So instead of instructing her to go finish it, try sitting down with her to finish it.
Set Up a Routine -
Negotiate with her and fix a time table for all activities which is acceptable to both of you. So, if she wants to play or watch her favourite programme, the timetable should take her needs into account, too. This helps avoid daily battles over what to do when.
Organise Homework Time -
This is actually a parent’s main objective with homework. More than explaining and reading the materials, you should help her organise her homework time.
- Fix a place where she must do her homework. Such a place should be without distractions (not near the TV!) and should allow her to read and write with a proper posture.
- Identify the best time for getting the homework done. Is it immediately after she gets home? After her play time? Ensure that she is not worn out at the time she begins her homework.
- Start by listing all the homework. Do not leave the most tedious parts or her least favourite subjects for the end.
- Check if everything is complete at the end of the session,. Keep books and materials ready for school the next day.
Encourage Independence -
You cannot be sitting with her everyday. Once homework has become a routine with her you have to very gradually ease yourself out unless specifically required.
Getting homework done together can be an enjoyable, learning, experience. Do avoid power struggles. There are times you will not get your way. Do remember to praise her whenever she does well and your session ends smoothly. If you monitor the time she takes to do her homework it could indicate to you if she is having any difficulty coping with the work in school.
Good work habits will serve her through her life. A positive attitude from both of you will go a long way in promoting learning.