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Many Indians fantasize about the life in the United States, and long to live the American dream, with access to money, fast cars, a better quality of life, beautiful malls and unending entertainment. 

I shifted to the US of A, a year ago. I wasn't every comfortable when I first arrived, though friends and relatives insisted I would definitely adjust; it was only a matter of time before I wouldn't even want to return to India. Sure enough, I gradually adjusted to the climate, people and lifestyle. In fact, I adjusted too well! When I think about returning to India, I think of it as home, as a place where I have my family, my people, and as a place where I would want to settle eventually.  Now that I am so used to the facilities at our disposal here, I worry about whether I would ever be able to re-adjust to our homeland. 

Soon after shifting here, I got pregnant. Days flew by and before long I gave birth to a beautiful baby boy. This gave rise to many other questions that I hadn't considered earlier. Should we return to India? And if we do, would my son be able to adjust to the harsh climate? But then again, where would I want to raise my child? In India? Or in America? Children here are taught to be independent at a young age, which is a good thing if that is what you are looking for. But me, do I want my child to be independent? A quick introspection later, I discovered that I want my child to want me, to need me. I want my child to miss me when I am away, just as I will miss him. No, I did not want him to move out as soon as he turns 18, so my husband and I could have our privacy. I wanted our family to be inter-dependent, as opposed to independent. 
So bearing all these factors in mind, naturally the next point we had to consider was, where should we bring up our child? India, or America? This is one question confronted by all non-resident Indians at some point in time. There is no easy answer. While a lot of parents want to raise their children in India, shifting back is not always an option. Boarding school in India is an option, but then do you want to stay away from your child? We spent many nights thinking about whether we should plan to return to India, and then came to the conclusion that the place doesn't really matter. What matters is the upbringing we give our child. Shifting to India does not, by itself, guarantee a good upbringing. While we may not be comfortable with certain aspects of the American culture, there are so many plus points. As with all cultures, there is a good, and a bad. Being independent doesn't necessarily mean loving less. We decided to stay on here, and are confident that our child would turn out to be a fine, independent, young man. 

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We like to do adoption from India,We need some information
Aravind.2 years ago
East or West India is the best country for Indians who are born and brought up in India. Culture, Bonding Relationship, Freedom of thought, Speech and Action. In a foreign country the Son the soil will feel irritated and even they will go to the level of killing people migrating from other countries. The Employment opportunities are available in plenty. If you are going to abroad you are making yourselves as slaves.People who are technically highly qualified can work for their own countries and strive hard for the development of their nation.Nurturing children, Natural climatic conditions, Good Environment, Culture, food habits, feeling of our country. Traditional system of many factors are involved,

India is the best country for nurturing children. That are the talents and planning of parents to bring their children in a prosperous and high level. One has to understand their children very well, analyze their weakness and strengths and try to eliminate weakness of their children and to develop their strength.All Great saints are born in India and India is a country with a history of wonderful resources and Great Leaders By Aravind
Chanakya.4 years ago
Immigration is not a new thing. People migrate from village to city, plains to hills, state to state and country to country. It all depend upon how strong you need it based upon your family background, their expectations, current place of living, career, relations with family, friends & society and YOUR responsibilities. As far as the concern for your kids is concerned, do not forget that you were once kid and who made you what you are now. India is a country of colors, full of challenges and surprises. At the end, where ever you live, be patriotic to that nation. Kids will follow.
Abcd.4 years ago
Wah wow! Wat an article!! People like you pretend to belong elsewhere, and forget your own nationality. To be honest, you ought to be kicked out of USA AND India, cuz you belong nowhere. You guys go there to make money, don't even pay taxes back home, and are happy sweeping the floor. Back at home you will pretend like ur a big boss. Fuck you assholes. And that includes your stupid kid too. Who i guess will learn to speak with a fake american accent, while you, his mom, will push Frooti into his mouth (cuz evidently its cheaper than amaaarican drinks). Ugh! Disgusting! Chutiya! And not to mention that sick habit of taking back smelly masalas and oily pickles and fugly clothes from india. Ewwww. you guys SUCK
Neha.6 years ago
very well written.
Tamanna.6 years ago
yes, the place does not matter, its all in the upbringing.
Gauri.6 years ago
if given a choice we decide to educate her here,in usa.then its upto us how we mold her into a well behaved n well mannered human.
Sujatha.6 years ago
i am still in a dilemma, should i bring up my kid here or in india,tho, the way of bringing up the kid is important, there is something called 'peer pressure' that is a little difficult for parents to make kids understand at such a vulnerable age. so we are thinking of going to india after our kid is around 6-7 yrs.
PG.6 years ago
do u agree ? girl should be brought up in india , but boys can be brought up in usa. for girls it is not a good place to bring up.
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