Crime committed by teenagers can be prevented by
talking to them about the negative impact of peer pressure and crime. Here is
how to prevent peer pressure and crime by talking to your teen.
When we look around we find that
criminal activity that are influenced by peer
pressure and committed by teenagers are on
a rise in today’s society. This is alarming and needs multi-faceted approach to
effectively prevent or counter it. Talking to your teen
about the varied impact of peer pressure and its propensity to lead to crimes
is very important.
First of all, get a clear understanding
of what is peer pressure. Do not assume that a teen is liable to commit a crime
in any environment. Peer pressure is when the person is made to feel the
compulsion of engaging and indulging in certain activities in order to feel
accepted in the group, or to fit in. Parents can have great influence on how
the teen develops a notion of right and wrong behaviour.
Here are some ways that you can talk about peer pressure and crime:
a Clear Picture of Reality
Shying away from reality will not help
the kid cope and deal with an environment that is far from the utopian one. It
is therefore advisable to make the teen aware that violence, drugs,
alcohol and gangs are some grim realities
of life. There are subjects rather people who resort to them, but these are
wrong and need to be shunned for a healthy life and for the good of the society
as a whole. Tell the teen that he might encounter peer groups that engage in
such activities and they need to deal with it and adopt ways and mechanisms so
that they can counter that pressure from influencing his life and activities.
When certain activities and incidents
are related, it is easier for a teen or a young mind to understand the impact
of the criminal activity. You can share your personal experiences in some crime
activities that you have witnessed yourself or by some acquaintance and relate
the harmful impact of it on the individual or people related to him. This will
help the teen gauge how bad and undesirable it is to get involved or associated
Respect to Your Teens’ Point Of View
Your teen is an individual and while you
communicate with him on any serious issue such as peer pressure and crime, you
need to show your respect by listening to their ideas too. You may or may not
validate their opinion and ideas, but you can correct them only when you listen
to them patiently. You cannot assume that they have a wrong notion even before
being aware of their opinion. Once you adopt this approach, you will notice
that the teen will be more open to your suggestions and directives.
On Staying Safe
You may require repeating certain points
and emphasising on staying safe. But ensure that you do not sound obsessive or
nagging; the teen must feel that you are concerned and not intrusive or trying
to be a control freak. Preventing crime and violence is your priority and your
conversations should focus on this aspect.
Your Expectations Clear
This is also about making the teen aware
of the family values and the type of activity and behaviour that are expected
from him. This is a part of conditioning whereby you instil a behaviour code,
which the teen feels he has to abide by, often unconsciously.
Finally, it is through effective
parenting that you can help prevent peer pressure and crime. Lead by example,
be a positive role model to your teen and ensure that the environment is also a
positive. Keep an eye for behaviours that are potentially harmful, read the
signs well. If anything is amiss, have an open chat with your teen.