Have you ever
visited someone's home and come away feeling disgusted by
the behaviour of the children there? Here are some manners that
every child should learn.
While it is true that no
one is perfect, children are expected to conform to at least certain basic
behavioural norms. For example, greeting guests and not interrupting an ongoing
conversation between adults are rules that every child must follow, no matter
how young he is.
In today's world, it is easy to
send your child for etiquette classes. There he will learn how to carry on
a conversation, which cutlery to use for certain foods, and a whole host
of other social skills. However, teaching
your child his manners is a task that should begin at home.
Society is such that an
individual is judged on the basis of his social skills. Manners play a big
role in social behaviour. They influence people's perceptions and behaviour
towards an individual. Good manners indicate a good upbringing and
are a mark of good breeding.
Each set of circumstances has
its own accepted manners. However, all manners are based on the same
principal; that is consideration for other people and being mindful of their
feelings. In each scenario, there are three main criteria to determine if an
individual has good manners. These are diplomacy, hospitality, and tact.
Teach Children when
they are Young
Teaching a child how to behave
should begin from the time your child is able to speak. A few basic manners are
Waiting his turn
If you are busy speaking to
someone else and your child wants to speak to you, he should wait
quietly, until you have finished your conversation. If your child interrupts
you, explain to him that you are busy and ask him to wait. If he persists, tell
him that when many people speak at the same time, no one can be
If your child is waiting to
speak to you, reach out your hand to touch him and let him know you are aware
of his presence. When you do listen to him, give him your complete attention.
This will teach your child that waiting to speak to you ensures you will not be
distracted when his turn comes.
Teach your child to greet
a visitor to your home. When he is young,
your child need not shake hands with a visitor. A simple 'hello' will suffice.
A child older than five can be taught to shake an adult's hand while greeting him.
Although this is a typical Western form of greeting someone, it is
also accepted in India. Even if he is shy around people he is meeting for the
first time, he should still greet them politely to make them feel
same greeting behaviour should be followed when he visits someone's home.
Have your child greet every member of the household. How a person is greeted
will sometimes depend on the level of formality you follow. In most Indian
households, he would be expected to touch the feet of the adults, as a mark of
respect. Make sure you teach your child the different forms of greeting people.
Also, guide him on the method to use in each situation.
Saying 'please' and 'thank you'
If your child is asking for
something, he should always say please. If he forgets, have him repeat his
request again and remind him that he forgot to say please. Explain to him that
when he asks for something without saying please, it appears like a demand,
rather than a request.
Your child should always thank a
person when he receives a gift from someone and when someone complies with his
request. He should say thank you even when someone compliments him for any
child manners using positive reinforcement techniques. Praise your child
when he does something right. If he makes a mistake, gently explain to him why
he is wrong and show him the correct way to act. Remember though,
that manners cannot be learned in a single day. You will need to keep
reminding your child to mind his manner and gently reprimand him when he
behaves undisciplined. This will ensure
that he grows up into a charming, well-mannered adult.
age do you think children should be taught their manners? Is it better to teach
them at home or send them for classes to a professional? Which are the basic
manners that every child should know? Discuss here.