As humans, we are all social and
emotional beings. Emotions which arise in our thoughts or feelings need to be
properly understood and channelled in the right direction. When we learn to
manage our emotions in an intelligent and appropriate manner, our life becomes
happy. Hence, it is very important to teach emotional
intelligence to kids from a young
age so that they learn to perfectly manage their emotions and feelings.
A child who lacks emotional intelligence
can become aggressive
and troublesome. Hence, emotional intelligence matters a lot and children are
better off when they can handle their emotions well. Here are a few reasons why
emotional intelligence matters and tips to teach your children.
Measuring and Developing Emotional Intelligence
You can measure and Develop EI in your
children using the following methods.
Listening to what other people have to
say is very important. Teach children to wait for the other person to finish
and then respond appropriately.
Active listening should be developed so
children do not back answer and there is peace at home, school and everywhere
else. We must not interpret wrongly when the teacher gives feedback. Miscommunication
often happens when children do not wait for the teacher or parent to complete
while giving feedback because they want to quickly put forth their side of the
argument. Teaching kids to actively listen without interrupting is very
important for proper two way communication
to take place. Conversations should be two-sided and not one-sided.
Knowledge of your own strengths and
weaknesses is very important. For example, a child who participates in a
singing competition and faces rejection should not feel bad. It is important to
be practical and have a realistic view of yourself.
Even though the child or parent may
think that he or she deserves more and more chances, the teacher or judge knows
better. When they say that your son or daughter cannot go ahead in the
competition, it is important to fully understand what that means. A â€˜noâ€™ is a
â€˜noâ€™ and whether or not you deserve more chances should solely be the
discretion of the teacher or respective judge of the competition.
Sometimes children have interest in those
activities in which they may not be able to do well and hence parents or
teachers should not get dejected when it is not possible. As mothers or
fathers, over-expectation hurts when you realize that your son or daughter cannot
do something; so it is better to be content and realistic from an early stage
Teachers love children who are
empathetic to the needs of other children. Sometimes, a simple sentence like â€˜I
understandâ€™ or â€˜I realizeâ€™ is great to hear from people including children.
When you are busy reading the newspaper
and your child begs for attention, then he or she needs to be taught empathy.
Similarly, when you are unwell and your child forces you to take him or her
out, then gently make him understand that they should be considerate towards
others feelings and problems.
Similarly, teach your children to not
laugh or bully when others make a mistake. Children who learn empathy become
good human beings and are an asset to the school and country. It is difficult
especially for small kids, but teach them to put themselves in otherâ€™s shoes to
Emotions and Self-Regulation
Just like athletes are taught to not
give-up and remain strong, children should also be taught the importance of
staying strong and not giving up whatever the situation may be.
Those who are good in studies should be
taught the importance of helping weak students without feeling ashamed. Rich
kids should be taught the importance of respecting everyone including those who
come from lower sections of society. Feelings like superiority
or inferiority should not arise in any child irrespective of the talents or
qualities they possess. All children are a gift of God and as mothers you know
that very well. Respect otherâ€™s kids and do not let your child develop negative
thoughts about anybody.
Teach children to regulate their
emotions so that they can be successful and happy in life always. Sometimes,
school life is full of competition; hence children should learn to accept the
situations as it comes. Encourage your children without focusing too much on
the rat-race. Learn to motivate your children and help them achieve their goals
by becoming emotionally strong and tough.