Putting too much of pressure on kids to study and being over-involved in their academics may do more harm than good. Read on to find tips for making kids study independently so that study time in not stressful for them.Many parents believe that the more they will help their children, better will be their performance in school as well as in social life. They even try hard to help their kids
study and complete the
homework and projects so that they remain on the top level in class. Parental involvement in the studies of children is extremely important but a new research shows that too much of involvement of parents in their children’s studies can do more harm than good.
Along with being involved in studies, parents meet teachers and take disciplinary action if the child’s performance is not up to the mark. These things, in fact, make kids more anxious and they have no positive effects on the child. As a parent being involved in child’s needs and staying supportive of their educational process is important, but it is important to know here that putting too much of pressure by being too much involved might be the wrong way. Instead you should help your child become independent learner but you should be available when your help is needed. Here are some proven strategies.
1. Believe in Your Child
Let your child know that you have faith in her abilities. Allow your children to work through their challenges rather than doing things for them. Just keep a watch and you will know when they really need help.
2. Ask Them What They Need
Do not talk about your children and their education when they are not there. Ask them directly about their needs and let them seek help from you. His way they will have clear idea about what they are doing and know their requirements also.
3. Encourage your Child’s Effort and Progress
When you award or reward your child’s results, you focus on the result. Effort and improvement remains overlooked in this process. This conveys a wrong message that kids should do whatever it takes to get good grades. You should praise your child for the effort she is putting in and the work it took to get good grades. When we praise the action and effort, children get boosted and they do that again and again.
4. Create Opportunities for Independence
Allow your children to take initiates right from young age. You can start with small things like allowing them to pick their clothes, make their bed and so on. This help kids feel that they are effective in a way and encourages them to do things independently. You give them their responsibilities and step back. They will have both skills and confidence in themselves which will help them move forward independently.
5. Provide a Learning Space
Children also need space to do their work. Some children create the space of their own while some children need their parent’s help, at least initially. Once this is done, they will stay focused on their
learning and would not keep asking you what they need.
6. Keep Out of the Way
Stepping back can be really challenging for parents. Just keep in mind that in the end what parents need is their
child to succeed. Even if you want to help them, sometimes the best way to help them succeed is to allow them to work independently. Let them figure out things on their own. This will help them and improve their overall performance and effort.
While staying involved with your child’s academic performance is good, it is important to take a constructive look at your involvement. Find out whether it is strengthening your child’s learning or detracting from it. Just keep in mind that self-assured independent learners grow up to be confident learners having faith in their abilities. They succeed, achieve and overcome challenges. After all every parent want this, at the end of the day.
Why is it important to encourage kids to study independently? To what extent should parents be involved in the studies of children? Do children really need tuition? Discuss here. 
