The best way to deal with serious cases of teen violence is to consult a qualified mental health professional. The treatment will chiefly focus on anger management and on the expression of anger in socially acceptable ways. The therapist will teach your teen to assume responsibility for his actions and cope with the consequences. Any issues that your teen has regarding school, friends, or family will be addressed. In an emergency, you may dial the local police or fire station, suicide helpline or hospital, depending on the problem.
At the root of all aggression lies suppressed anger. Adolescents undergo a number of changes—both physical and mental. Frustration and confusion can make the transition more traumatic, leading to persistent anger. As a parent, you may need to change your own behaviour in order to help your teen. Do not react. Respond. There is no point in wishing away the anger. It must have an appropriate outlet.
Parents and teens should look within themselves to find the cause of their anger. You may ask yourself or tell your teen to ask questions like, "Where does my anger come from? When do I get angry? What are my expectations from life and people? Are they unreasonable? Do I display physical signs of anger such as clenching fists and shortness of breath? Where is my anger directed? Do my emotions control me or do I control my emotions?" The key is self-awareness.
Ensure that your child feels secure and loved. Just be there for him or her. Do not force them into admitting anything. Refrain from adopting an accusing tone. Look at the problem objectively and coax your teenager to express himself. Do not be judgmental when your teenager tells you something. Listen with empathy and understanding. Eliminate the risk factors and always keep in touch with what is happening in your child's life. Always keep in mind—anger is powerless without accompanying action. Guide your teenager to channel the anger proactively.
