of rewards in children helps in cultivating good habits. It makes the disciplining
process easier. Read on to know about the type of rewards and ways to decide on
Rewarding is a part of the process of disciplining
children. For parents and teachers alike, it is a skill that is worth
learning. Let us make this clear at the onset that rewards should not be viewed
as the opposite of punishment.
The objective of disciplining should be clear, it is teaching the child
about what is right and wrong. They should also know how they are different
along with the fact that why being good is desirable and beneficial to our well
being. Rewards feature in this disciplining activity as a mark of recognition
that the child has been very prompt in understanding and putting the
disciplining lessons into practice.
How Would you Decide on Rewards for Children?
Following are some basic criteria
for rewarding children.
Check Whether Your Child is Being Good – Rewards act as motivation
prompting and encouraging the kid to further improve his behaviour.
Pay more attention to your kid when you find him doing something really good.
An encouraging smile, a verbal compliment or an affectionate hug can go a long
way in motivating the kid and making him feel happy.
Positive Behaviour Calls for Rewards – Always make sure that you let
your satisfaction or pleasure known when you find the kid doing something good
and his behaviour is really fine. Tell him how pleased you are when you find
him using terms like “please”, “thank you” or “excuse me”. If the kid feels
that they catch your attention only when they are behaving badly and all their
good behaviour is overlooked, then they might think that it is better to behave
badly as they can then have your attention. Remember, kids are crazy attention
The Goals Set by You Must be Realistic – Make sure that the goals you
set for the kids are attainable. If you ask your kid to clean up the room, it
is not an achievable target. He or she might well fail in it. Instead, if you
ask her to pick and place her toys
back into the toy basket. It is an achievable task. Once done neatly, you can
reward the little one.
Rewards for Children
Now let us check on what could be
the type of rewards:
- A family trip to the park.
- An extra play hour with friends.
- Presenting a collection of his favourite comic strips.
- Choosing to watch his favourite show on television.
- Renting a video game or going for a movie.
- Camping in the backyard or picnic.
- Getting a special haircut.
- Going to school in the family car for a day.
The rewards can be bog or ‘mall’ depending on a lot of factors. The intent
is simply to make the kid feel rewarded and happy. As a parent you would know
better about what are the things that make your little one ecstatic. Use them
as rewards, while at the same time you must also ensure that the habits
or things that you are promoting as rewards are indeed beneficial to the
development of the kid. That is, they are helping the kid in cultivating good
habits or teaching him something worthwhile in the process, or it is beneficial
to the kid’s health.