who are extremely busy in their work often unknowingly neglect their children.
However, such behaviour can deeply affect children. Here are some ways which
you can follow to avoid neglecting children.
There is a lot of scientific evidence to show the emotional
damage caused to kids who feel neglected during their childhood. Surprisingly
parents of such children are sometimes not even aware that they are neglecting
their children as they are more caught up with fulfilling the material demands
needs of children go unnoticed for some parents and this is where the issue
of neglect starts. As a responsible parent you will obviously want to protect
your child from all harm and feelings of neglect. The guide below will help you
identify neglect and prevent it.
Curb Morning Impatience
Child psychiatrists have found out that mornings are the
times when the child in an average middle class household feels most neglected.
There is a lot of strife, rushing around and racing to get things done in the
morning. Often parents
act impatient and brusque towards their kids as they are occupied with other
things. If you identify with the above scenario then you might be inadvertently
neglecting your kids.
Many children are unable to directly express their negative
feelings of discontent, sadness, loneliness, fear, unhappiness etc. When they
experience these negative emotions they become emotionally withdrawn, reclusive
or moody. Other children may become violent and aggressive.
As a parent you have to make an effort to understand the
root cause of the problem which is triggering this behaviour. If you do not
intervene at the earliest to tackle this behaviour you will soon distance
yourself from your child and set up a case for parental neglect.
Avoid Indifferent Behaviour
Many parents resort to ignoring their child as a way of
punishment. This kind of behaviour may include behaving with the child in a
cold way, suspending benefits, not using normally used terms of endearment etc.
Child psychiatrists say that this is one of the worst ways of disciplining the
child as it gives birth to feelings of neglect.
Many children develop the feeling that they are unwanted and
unloved when faced with such a situation. If you identify with the above
situation then it is imperative that you stop this kind of behaviour and never
ever wilfully behave indifferently towards your children.
Never Treat your Child as Secondary
As an adult you probably have to prioritise work, social
commitments and other engagements sometimes. However, children are very
sensitive and if the prioritisation of other activities happens regularly
before them they may start developing feelings of being neglected.
As a parent it is one of your primary responsibilities to
make your child feel important. When faced with a difficult situation gently
explain to your child that while he or she is very important to you it is
necessary that you finish the task at hand.
Get Professional Help
In many cases parents have continued in a pattern of behaviour
for so long that the feelings of neglect in the child become deep rooted. In
such cases it becomes difficult to break the parental
behavioural patterns and wash away feelings of neglect without professional
intervention. If you feel that you require help in refining and improving your
role as a parent then do not hesitate in asking for help. Contact a child
psychiatrist or a parental relationship counsellor.
that the faster you act in eradicating feelings of neglect the better it is for
the psychological well being of your children.
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