Are you a slow parent?
What is slow parenting? Read on to learn what slow parenting is and find about
its advantages and disadvantages.
in the days, the child peeped through the window to catch a glimpse of the
older children going to school, and said, “Mommy, when do I get to ride that
big red bus?”
This dream of every little child has been very
much fulfilled now. The children do not have to (or get to) dream. Their
parents are already busy sending them to the so called “play schools”, changing
their nonchalant lives into a routine driven mechanical clockwork. The
colourful world and the lush green fields have taken a backseat, replaced by
the chemical aroma of the processed notebooks which their lives are enclosed
Once, a man went to Thailand. There was this
orphanage. He walked up to one of the classes and stood by the door. What he
saw was rather surprising. There was a child breaking a toy car into pieces,
and there was another child crying his heart out. The man stood by and watched
it for quite some time, but he couldn’t make out why the nanny sitting in front
of the children didn’t pat the child who cried or stop the other one from
breaking the toy. So, he just went and asked. What he got as an answer was
“If they are not allowed to break, how
will they learn how to build? If they are not allowed to cry, how will they learn
how to laugh?”
Sometimes we really need to learn to let
What is Slow
Slow parenting (or
free-range parenting) is a method in which, simply put, children are allowed to
grow by themselves, explore the world and make their own decisions. They are
taught through practical experiences, rather than just theoretical knowledge
obtained from textbooks.
As is evident from the concept, the
role of the father is more important than the role of the mother in these
cases. Slow parenting has expanded in popularity in recent times and this is a
welcome change since it helps bring balance into the
The term “slow” should not be taken in the literal
sense; in this context, it implies doing everything at the proper speed,
indicating the significance of quality over quantity. This type of parenting
lays stress on real and meaningful human connections and encourages parents to
be present and in the moment.
Slow parents are in a position
to keep the family schedule under control so that everyone gets sufficient
downtime to rest, reflect and spend time together. They do not simply bend over
backwards to provide their children with the best of everything; instead, they
allow their kids to work out who they are without enforcing what they want them
Parents who follow the system of slow parenting are
capable of understanding the fact that the rearing of children is not a
combination of competitive sports and product development. They do not view the
development of kids as a long-term project but treat it as a journey. In a
nutshell, slow parenting is all about showering children with loads of
attention and love with no conditions
of Slow Parenting
though risky, has some effective
It makes the child self-dependent.
The child becomes more aware of his needs and learns how to fulfil them.
It increases self-confidence
and makes him or her more aware of the world beyond the boundary of his or her
house. When the child is exposed to new situations, he handles them better as
he has become more self-dependent.
It improves the creativity
and enthuses to develop an interest in exploration. Dealing with one’s own
problems helps one to explore new ways of solving them. Slow parenting
helps in making the child use his creativity in solving his own
It makes the child less stressful
when he or she faces new situations. Since the child becomes accustomed to
facing problems and dealing with them by himself, he is no longer under >stress
when faced with tough situations.
Disadvantages of Slow
Too much of everything can
be quite harmful, and the same goes for too much of
Here are a few
The child can land up in the wrong
company. Taking freedom for granted, the child can get involved with
anti-socials or the wrong kind of people.
The child can get involved in
situations too risky for him or her to handle. Some things are better off
without being experienced. The child, lacking maturity, can land in
complications which he or she cannot handle alone.
Less importance on the role of the
mother is not always fruitful. We all know the value and importance of the
mother’s role in the lives of
Slow Parenting: A Boon or a
Unfortunately, optimality in
life is not defined. We can never be sure as to which is the perfect degree of
freedom. The only option is trial and error through careful
It has been proven that singing along with
children in front of campfires teaches more than the classes in the cage-like
four walls of the classroom. Going for long trips, helping the child to learn
through self-realization are proven to be one of the most effective methods of
But since different children have
different mentalities, different theories apply to raising them as well. So, it
is advised that parents pay good attention to the behavioural aspects of the
child and act accordingly.
How does slow
parenting influence the development of children? Is it good to be a slow
parent? What are demerits of being a slow parent? Discuss
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