Examination times are times of anxious moments and stress for children. Along with the children parents are also very anxious. Competition levels are so high that in order to be in the rat race, children have to be pushed more. Children need to be de stressed so that they perform better.
As exams draw near, we know that the anxiety level of children rises, but what we may not know is that some parents too tend to get overtly anxious, and convey this to the child, who gets further stressed as a consequence. He not only has to perform well to satisfy himself, but also to satisfy his parents. The competitive spirit of the parents leads them to force the childto perform more than he may be able. Often we see that such children perform poorly in their exams.
The best way to make the child
perform at his optimum level is to encourage regular study habits and
give him proper guidance if he is weak in any subject. Once he starts
performing well in class tests, his self esteem rises, confidence
builds up and the desire to do well motivates him to study hard and to perform even better the next time around. By the time the final exams approach, your child is a picture of confidence and gives his best.
Don't discourage extra-curricular activities
The key to getting a childto perform
well is undoubtedly regularity and discipline. However, you should not
just stress on the academics. Extra curricular activities too should be
given due importance as they help in shaping a complete personality. It
is possible that the child excels in sports but not so in studies. It is important that parents do not discourage him from pursuing the sport to concentrate on his
studies. Playing a sport distresses a person and brings about a change
in the personality for the positive. It also builds focus, with the
result that your child's academic performance too may improve.
Chopra, who taught at Campion for fifteen years, says, "10-year-old
Rahul was academically very weak. We teachers could barely coax him to
write a sentence. However, he did excel in drawing and other aspects of
art such as sculpture. Once I realized his potential, I encouraged him
to make a drawing with every composition. Before long, he was writing a
page and a half, much to the amazement of his mother. Rahul, who had
never received a grade above D before this, soon started showing
improvement and securing B's, C+'s and an occasional A."
Besides, you may not realise it now, but when your child
is applying for admission to college abroad, they lay as much stress on
extra curricular activities as they do on academics. Similarly,
colleges in India too have a sports quota, wherein your child
can gain admission solely on the basis of his sports performance, and
the board exam marks are not taken into consideration. However, your child does need to excel in a sport for this quota to be applicable.
Parents, as a rule of thumb, should stop comparing their child
to that of Mrs. Topiwala or Mrs. Shah, or to their brother or sister,
as this creates a feeling of inadequacy. The message you are sending
your child is that he or she is not as good as the other child.
Talk about things other than school matters
Parents could discuss other activities at the dining table like a musical competition, a movie or even politics, rather than focusing the topic
of conversation on your child's performance at school or on homework
all the time.
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