A lot of changes take place in child when he or she enters teenage. The attraction towards the opposite sex increases and this is why most parents get worried. Learn more about dating in teenagers and tips for dealing it.
The interest for dating is at peak due to the typical hormonal and physical changes that take place in a child during teenage years. This increases the worries in parents. Guiding them the right way is important at this stage. Discussed below are some of the concerns of parents related to dating in teenagers.
My daughter has a boyfriend!
"When I was a teenager, dating was something that actors did in American movies or something you read about in Archie comics," says Vatsala Sachdev, mother of 16-year-old Rhea. Vatsala is in a quandary about how to handle her daughter's first romance. She says, â€œRhea is so young. I feel that she should be concentrating on her studies rather than mooning over this boy. But every time I try to talk to her about it, she says "Relax, mom! We're just friends." I have no idea what to do."
Times have changed
Parents have to realize that the world is a different place from the time when they were teenagers. In those days, a crush was just something you giggled over with your girlfriends or fantasized over silently. It would have been difficult to take it any further because things like that were just not done.
But today the rules have changed. Teenagers of both sexes have greater opportunities to mix freely and the taboos on friendships with the opposite sex have definitely been relaxed. Parents are beginning to come round to the view that platonic relationships are possible between a boy and a girl. However, when their sons and daughters begin to show a romantic interest in members of the opposite sex, it does set off warning bells in their minds. In their view, all those raging hormones in close proximity could cause some serious damage.
What about sex?
Their worries are not baseless. After all, this is the age when children awaken to their sexuality. Though their minds may boggle at the thought of their children having sexual feelings, it is a fact and parents are just going to have to deal with it.
Forbidding socializing with members of the opposite sex is not going to win you any brownie points with your children. On the contrary, you will force them to do things behind your back and you'll find yourself in a position where you don't know what's happening in your child's life. This would be a pity because this is the time for parents to play a strong guiding role and make their children aware of the consequences of allowing their 'passions' to get the better of them.
In olden days sex was assumed to happen only amongst married couples. However, times have changed now. Adopting a positive approach in educating about teenage sex and its repercussion can help parents to teach children to stand-up for themselves and make good choices.
Parents should not project sex as a taboo or a bad thing but educate children about who have it and the right time to have it. Although, teaching children to say no to sex is important at the same time it is also very important to discuss with them about safe sex practices. If they are in a relationship, highlight the importance of knowing a person emotionally than physically. There are many couples who abstain themselves from sex and adopt other ways to express their love for each other. At the end of the day, it is necessary to teach children why abstinence is important during the phase that they are undergoing.
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- The Indiaparenting Team