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Name: jane
Country: India
 This is a wonderful article with wonderful comments. Day dreaming is good if it’s put to use otherwise it can be bad. As a child I was a daydreamer and I rarely listened to teachings or anything. In my day dreams I created a perfect world which wasn't existing in reality. Day dreaming gave me good imagination, I loved writing poems, stories, which I realized quite late in my life, and sadly I lost the habit of listening. Because as soon as anybody starts speaking or giving lecture in class my mind shifted to daydreaming and once if you get used to it then it’s kind of irreversible. Even while travelling in a car or bus I was day dreaming never really noticed what is going on around me. Because of this later in life I felt quite a huge gap of general knowledge when I compared myself with my peers. They knew a lot by asking, seeing where as I wasn't there in that world at all. Hope you are getting me. This leads to lack of confidence and low self esteem. Hence day dreaming is good if it is put to use. If your child is day dreaming encourage your child to put down his dream in a paper. Then you will know what he is dreaming. Is he trying to escape from reality, if so it’s bad. Otherwise appreciating the child’s imagination may bring out his creative side. Usually day dreamers will be good at writing or imaginary stuff. Let that side of the child shine and let it not be mere day dreaming. This is from my experience.
Name: mino
Country: India
 day dreamers can be very dangerous some time..
Name: Mary
Country: U.S.A.
 I'm 65 years old, and have been a daydreamer all my life. my grade school report cards, the comments from my teachers say I'm a daydreamer. my adult kids always tell me are you lisening mom. I tell them yes I am, even tho I was daydreaming.my kids tell me well then what did I say, so I tell them what they said, the important parts. some times I watch my grand kids play and I'll daydream, of something in the past. but I'll catch myself doing it alot. so some times it was good, other times not good. wish I knew what causes this. but I feel it's not a bad thing. because you still can hear around you, and aware whats going on. I kinda like it most of the time,like 80% b/c you go into a far away land.maybe I should start writing down what I was thinking at the time, and just maybe I can make something out of it. but I see nothing bad of it. at least were not alone, most common.
Name: Richa
Country: India
 Hey..!! I myself was a daydreamer once..!! But when i started hanging out and spending more time with my friends and family, it stopped..!! If you don't want your child to become day dreamer, create situations that seems better than dreams to him... When reality is better than dreams, a child stops day dreaming..!! Usually Day dreaming is done to give mental satisfaction to our self..!! If some child is day dreaming it means he is upset or he doesn't have much friends or he is not interested in the task..!!
Name: sherry
Country: U.S.A.
 If you notice a child staring out into space for a few seconds and then they come right back, it could be a sign of Absence seizures, which is a form of epilepsy. my son has this and it started at a young age of 4 or 5,but we didn't get it fully diagnosed until the age of 12. He now is on medicine which helps tremendouly. He also has ADD(attention deficit disorder) and is on medication for that also. He was failing in school this year from sept-dec. but after the medication for ADD, he turned his grades around and passed to the 8th grade.
Name: Feff
Country: USA
 thanks, vicki. as the proud proprietor of a rambling mind, i am relieved to hear that there are still people who do not view creativity as a disorder. while my tendency to "drift off" can be frustrating at times, i have learned to control it to the degree that i have a--gasp--normal, happy life.
Name: Sparkles
Country: Canada
 when i was really, many teacher really complained about me daydreaming so much. my dad would always be so angry about my daydreaming. i am beginning to learn that daydreaming can be very helpful in guiding people in their lives. for example, daydreaming can help possibly help you acheive your goals or help you write imaginative stories if you are a writer. daydreaming can guide you, for example, i have been daydreaming about an acquaintance that i met 10 years and i have learning things about myself that i might of not realized. for example, i have discovered that there are quite a number of risks that i haven't taken and i am hoping i can have more courage. he has helped me realized to try some new things and if it doesn't work out i at least tried. i do believe that daydreaming can be positive.
Name: linda
Country: Canada
 i used to daydream a lot but have stopped myself after this incident. i was in the grocery store and was daydreaming. i took someone else's cart and went off with it. i noticed that the cart was heavier and looked down and saw it was the wrong one. i was so embarassed. i have made an effort and not daydream as much and have found i can get more things accomplished in my day.
Name: Melanie
Country: Australia
 i am a terminal daydreamer. aalways have been. has anyone ever experienced this in a negative sense for example, reality becomes so stressful that the habit of daydreaming becomes your preferred existence and what you are daydreaming about is no longer bringing you pleasure
Name: pads
Country: India
 it is thoroughly confusing that the page on day dreaming says that it is a behavioural disorder the views on this page says that it enhances and should be allowed. i have a child in my class who is seven years and making him write has become such a big problem because he is always in the dreamland. please help
Name: Debbie
Country: USA
 i believe day dreaming is as natural as night dreaming -- that we have subtle rhythms of drifting in and out of focus on concrete reality. one should allow themselves time to daydream -- knowing that it will happen. try to be aware of how often you need to daydream. the advantage of daydreaming over nigh dreaming is that you have some control over the dream. here is where you can use your imagination to improve your life. beware of negative daydreaming and change it to a beautiful daydream. i believe lack of daydreaming time leads to high stress levels.
Name: Skye
Country: Australia
 i used to daydream a lot at school after my parents broke up anf my mother married an abusive man. it was a way to escape and cope. after a couple of years and teacher complaints i moved school and one of my first assignments was to write a story. it turned out i was very creative and i was put in a writing class, wrote a book at 12 which was published. i never did do very well at school, was very nervous of my teacher as i felt she hated me from my daydreaming. i am a mature age student now at university and lead a very happy life. i don't have so much time to daydream but i am happy.
Name: Ishrath
Country: USA
 the day dreaming may also because of the fantasy stories the kids heared with their elders.and they wanted to be like the heros in the stories.
Name: Jaime
Country: USA
 i've been daydreaming daily for the past nine years. it has not stopped me from "growing" as a person; in fact, i'd say that it has done the opposite. if anything, its taught me to think for myself and to think out of the box. i am extremely creative because i daydream. as an artist, that's a good thing. i believe the whole "daydreaming is a personality disorder" thing stems from the current trend that "if my child isn't the next einstein, then there is something wrong with them." personally, when it becomes easier to teach a child to regurgitate knowledge than to find a way to funnel their apparent creativity, i begin to worry about the future.
Name: Michelle
Country: USA
 i have a middle school age son who has been a daydreamer since he was a toddler, it is now beginning to affect his ability to concentrate in school. he is a straight a honor student, and i don't know how to help him learn to "control" his daydreaming at times that he needs to be getting instructions or assignments. help!
Name: pooja
Country: India
 i was very happy to see this article as i am a trainee doing my ecce diploma and we as group have to sudmit a presentation on daydreaming.i appreciate the effort putting this kind of information on net cause in india parents really need to be aware of these kind of day to day problems realting to the children.
Name: lee
Country: USA
 my daughter is in the third grade and daydreams often. she loves to write and make films. she wants to be a writer and a filmaker when she grows up. as long as she maintains good grades (which so far she does), i am proud of her and i hope she continues to dream.
Name: naddy
Country: USA
 i dont think daydreaming is a crock so i agree with vicki. i think daydreaming is heathy because you can get a deal of idea. so the person will have a good imagination and become someone great with his/her ability to understand and put things in perspective even of it is very strange and unable to comprend
Name: Namika
Country: USA
 i have a 5yr.old son that has just started to appear to be daydreaming on a consistent basis. out of no where or in the middle of anything he couold be doing in that moment he would start to daydream. it is the scariest thing. i'm curently not working with no insurance and am worrying is this something to freak out over or just calm down and let him grow out of this phase. his teacher though has told me that he frequently goes into la,la land. also, he has this new found love of playstation 2. i read on the back of one of the games i've recently rented that if he showes any signs of epileptic symptoms and one of those signs would be that of lack of awareness have him discontinue use and consult a physician. this is a problem also because a. my husband thinks i'm overreacting and my son throws to bad of fits if i take it away from him. i have though discontinue use on the weekdays for play but on the weekends he play's. please help. i don't know what to do about this.
Name: A. K. A.
Country: USA
 i haven't read the article but i daydream all the time. it's nice to be able to create a world of your own or to dream about different things. the downside is that if you daydream so much that the situations you create seem real you can almost become depressed with the life you have and might wish that you could do something to change it. but it also depends on what you daydream about, i love it and love the fact that i can be quite creative when dreaming.though, i don't think that anyone would understand what someone else dreams about(without it sounding silly or strange),we all daydream at one point or another. it's very healthy and does show uniqueness. it's wonderfully spectacular to discover what your mind can create. if your children often drift off into a daydream, you shouldn't worry but do try to get them back to reality every now and then, especially if it's getting in the way of schoolwork, friendships, activities, etc. but certainly don't try and stop it!!! that would be the most horrid thing in the world to do! dreaming is the birthplace of goals in life, creativity, and all things not known to us. this may have sounded silly, but it's what i truly believe and it's terribly hard to put into words how important dreaming is.
Name: Kathy
Country: USA
 my son is basically being punished for daydreaming in his 3rd grade class. the teacher seams very frustrated and he is being humiliated in front of his peers for daydreaming. i feel if she understood what daydreaming is all about she would take a different route in dealing with this problem.
Name: Bob
Country: Australia
 i have a terrible experince with a daydreaming problem .i had this problem since i was 12 but still this problem is with me i cant control it .i am 31 years old now .now i cant concenterate with every aspect of my day to day activities please help me out of this problem.
Name: melissa
Country: England
 im doing my gcse's at the moment and as my school is very acedemic and i quite creative i get put down all the time classed as thick. i daydream alot of the time and miss out on what is being said.but i've just been told i can pass my art music and english gcse with a's so im happy now but i'm still being bullied by teachers but hey isn't daydreaming there to conquer them out!!!
Name: holmesmicrosweet@aol.com
Country: USA
 my 10yr old son from the time he enter school,teacher keep telling me your so daydreams and dont stay focus in class. it's not that he's not learning but it's botter line in school because of it. i'm sick of the teaching telling me your son dont stay focus and daydreams alot but when he's focus he does great work. now it's cousing a problem because she said she may leave him back if he dont pass the reading test because of it. i need so help on this one. my husband tell me it's because i have him in a sport.that meet after school mon.fri.we sit and do homework before the class.and he enjoy the sport.so tell me if you feel this is causing him to drop in class.
Name: michelle
Country: Other
 thank god i'm not alone, i'm also a daydreamer. and i've always wanted to write, as a hobby and i play sort of like movies in my head where i'm the protagonist. i thought i was the only one doing that, ever since i was little i would daydream alot and like act out scenes but now that i'm older i don't but i still daydream mostly when i'm bored, or when i fall asleep.
Name: Iona
Country: England
 my son, who is 8 months old daydreams upto 5-10 times a day, and has done since he was born. i know that this isn't normal, so if it isn't, what is wrong with him and why does he do it. other people have said to try and curb it as early as possible, should i, or is it a gift.
Name: faisah
Country: Kenya
 i am an addicted day dreamer ever since i was 12 yrs. old until now i still daydream usually every time i'm alone. i thought it is okey to day daydream a lot but today it's getting in my way and it already affected my studies. i cannot concentrate on my projects and i hate it.i want to stop my habitual daydreaming but i don't know where to start.
Name: kat
Country: Canada
 daydreaming has been beneficial to me, because it inspired me to do certain things in my life, like travelling the world, to painting a painting and being spiritual. however, it has had its major disadvantages. for instance, by daydreaming about the future by the time the future does come, i have so many expectations that i tend to get disappointed, because reality did not follow the scenario that i spent days building and perfecting. when daydreaming about the past, i get carried away in analyzing a particular situation, sometimes in a negative way and after i can spend days thinking it over, when in fact what really happened could be much simpler.
Name: louie
Country: USA
 i have a son who is in 3rd grade that daydream a lot. his teacher often told me that she always caught him day dreaming. what should i do???
Name: Nicole
Country: USA
 daydreaming destroyed my mind!
Name: Paul
Country: USA
 daydreaming has certainly had a negative effect on my life. i feel like dori from "finding nemo". i payed attention in school. i got really good grades when i actually did the work. recently, i was a returning college student, but i dropped out because i have a short attention span and i have trouble remembering specific details. if you saw me in person, i'd appear as normal as everyone else, until you start to talk to me. my biggest problem right now is recognizing people i just talked to. i find this very tragic because i used to remember everything when i was 10. now i'm only 19 and i can't even remember close friends of mine. keep in mind that i don't think that daydreaming is completely wrong, but if you have a child, pay close attention to your child. please, please try to get them into counseling or make them understand that constant daydreaming is a bad habit. my parents didn't.
Name: Jack
Country: USA
 the article isn't negative about daydreaming in general-- only the problem of getting carried away with it. i daydreamed as a child, and was even chastised for it by my teachers. i think the level of daydreaming i did then was normal and healthy though. something awful happened to me later that got me started with unhealthy daydreaming. i would imagine that i had a chance to live my life over again as many times as needed to make things turn out better. i would spend hours every day thinking about these alternate versions of history-- so much so that i started losing touch with the real world. i stopped learning new things or planning for my future because my imaginary lives were more important than my real one. i did also almost get hit by cars a couple times while walking around. now, i try to mostly daydream about the future and i try to keep my fantasies realistic. if i daydream about impossible things, i try to think of it as writing a story. most of all, i try not to let it eat up all of my time and distract me from important things-- which is exactly what the article suggests.
Name: John
Country: Canada
 although daydreaming does fuel imagination, excessive daydreaming is damaging to our mental and physical health. i have day dreamed excessively about one subject -- about how well i do in a particular activity for example -- and sometimes i feel the damaging effects of it. so it's all about balance.
Name: judy
Country: USA
 maybe for some. i daydream so much that i am called a space cadet everywhere i go. i cant make friend easily and everyone calls me stupid even though i know i am not. i can sit through entire speeches or meetings and be clueless of what it was about. i rented a move once called "less than zero" just to see if the lead characater was less than me. it has affected my jobs "ive had 55 or maybe more" and i never married because i cant find anyone to commit to me. now you tell me this is normal. i am 50 years old.
Name: Pippa
Country: England
 i am so glad to know i am not the only one!!! daydreaming fuels creativity yes, but it also contributes to feelings of isolation, which makes me question what it is in reality that im running away from. im addicted though, and dont think i'll ever stop.
Name: m
Country: India
 i know that i have an negative fealing about one of my class mate girl she uses to talk to me ofently ones i have proposed her and she sad no she sad that she will never talk to me i have been very open with her like talking about sex after she sad no to my propose she again started talking to me as usual she told me not to take negative but iu always start thing abuot her while eating bathing studying i am not able to control over my self i am slowly becomying more iritated i am always cared about my smartness but not able to concenterate on my studies
Name: m
Country: India
 i know that i have an negative fealing about one of my class mate girl she uses to talk to me ofently ones i have proposed her and she sad no she sad that she will never talk to me i have been very open with her like talking about sex after she sad no to my propose she again started talking to me as usual she told me not to take negative but iu always start thing abuot her while eating bathing studying i am not able to control over my self i am slowly becomying more iritated i am always cared about my smartness but not able to concenterate on my studies
Name: Mandeep singh virk
Country: India
 i have an bad habbit of day dreaming i have an friend who is a girl i always start thing about her that i will talk to her this or that i know that its my negative thing i am not able to enjoy anything of my life i am not able to take my bath,breakfast etc
Name: len
Country: Australia
 i daydream excessively, its consuming me now, it starting happening in the 10th grade and the habit has stuck. its consuming my leisure and productive time and ruined some parts of my life. however i am getting on track by keeping a watch with me that monitors excessive day dreaming and its frequency and it has helped me reduce it a lot. i also dont allow myself to daydream about uncreative things which are just fantasy. its quite hard but it appears to help.
Name: Sohny
Country: Canada
 i am also a daydreamer since my childhood. its easy for me to sit and think every thing which i can't do. now i have condition , i feel i can't get rid of it or may be can't live without it. once i read an easy, in which writer tried to prove that all the great people got success while thinking,i.e.,through imaginations.... but anyhow, in the age 26, what i did great is give birth to a daughter.....
Name: Wondering what is wrong with me...
Country: canada
 i have been daydreaming since i was about 6 or so and am no turning 31. i would have to say that it has progressed into quite a problem for me. i have begun to incorporate music into my daydreaming and what i do is put my headphones on (blarring the music) and conjure up all these scenarios and i do this for hours on end. in fact i have actually left early from engagements and/or stayed at home so that i could have more time to daydream. another part of the problem is that my daydreams are not happy - they either involve myself being chased by the police, someone i know being killed or else me being a burned out rock star. i am just finding it hard to live my life when i spend the majority of it daydreaming. i don't think daydreaming is healthy becasue as i have seen on this site there are alot individuals who are older and wish they had been discpilined for daydreaming as a child. anyone have any words of wisdom or similar experiences: blacksweets6@hotmai l.com
Name: anthony rodrigues
Country: japan
 i have been daydreaming since childhood where ever i m inmy class ,college school,now i have joined the job n in training session im not able to answers the simple questions thats very embarassing for me? i wont to work on it
Name: Steve Schnurer
Country: usa
 i daydream constantly about killing all my coworkers at ge healthcare. is this unhealthy?
Name: nr
Country: usa
 i have read lots of articles about daydreaming but nothing on how to cure or curb the problem. i don't like the "floating away" feeling. sometimes i don't know i am daydreaming until i come back to reality. some people stare at me because i look like i am talking to some one invisible to them. is there a cure? i don't mind taking vitamins. i'm not interested in medicine.
Name: simha
Country: india
 i belive in some cases we try to win in the virtual world coz in real we dont try or dont even think going that side. this attitude also took much of my time. i feel after reading whole comments that if this habit is projected as not advisable or dangerous for our own progress many wll give up or atleast try to control. i have firm belief that if we are sincere and wan to get rid we can, there is nothing in this world change that. this site is good and it has also played like an eye opener for me. i hope everyone who posted on this site will try to get rid of this habbit.
Name: Rahul
Country: india
 hi, as usual my first sentence is "thank god there is such a forum on daydreaming".im really releved to see that im not the only one, but everybody must appreciate that all of us very few in now & mostly have adverse effect. it's like getting addicted to the extream (in my case). i can't leave w/o it but have to leave w/o it; as i come to know if i want to move ahead in life i have to give up day dreaming but....i can't. & i think most of u know why? but what is the solution to it. im 21 year old & day dream like anything & i think i just come to know im dreaming like a hell. i have to get out of it & leave with the reality. can anybody give me the solution. there are some discussions at the end but most of us hae only prsented the problmes, there are very few suggestions. if anybody have solutions or more link on the same topic then please write to me on techrahul2k@yahoo.com that will really help & please put subjest as day dreaming so that i will open that mail anyway thankk you all have a nice day & sweet but controlled dream regads rah ul
Name: awais
Country: saudi arabia
 please somebody advice me on how to get rid ofday dreaming . it had made my life miserable.i have this habbit sinc 15 years.i get tension headache cause of this. please advice in this column.please
Name: s t
Country: india
 i am a day dreamer since my teen age.now it has become a habbit and ihave continious headache .so my advice for young people isnot to get engage in day dreaming .icannot concentrate on what ever i do.
Name: Kay
Country: usa
 day dreaming is getting really annoying. i'm hallocinating.
Name: dead
Country: pakistan
 i have a problem of daydreaming for 1 year because in reality i m a loser.i lost my love without making any mistake,i can't study,i m not a rich person and i lost my health.in my daydreams i have my love,i get good grades,i have money and i m a handsome person.what i m supposed to do.i think its too dangerous for my mental health.is there any one who can suggest me useful solution.
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