Telling your child about his or her adoption is a must. You should talk to your child about it at the right time, openly and honestly. By adopting a child you make a difference to the childs life. At the same time it has also changed your world. Strengthen your heart from the beginning itself, while walking on the path of parenting. The time will come when you will have to tell your child that he or she is adopted. Take it as your responsibility rather than running away from the reality. Do not get overwhelmed; just make your child understand his or her importance in your life. Do not wait till your child gets older. Discussing this topic at the right time will make it easy for both of you to cope with it. Here are few things that will support you while telling your child about adoption. Read on and make yourself more comfortable and ready for undergoing this sensitive process. In this articleDo not be too lateAn ongoing processBe honestConsequences of hiding truthPrepare your child to deal with rude people and friends Do not be too late Do not wait for a longer time to tell your child. It is better to start talking to your child at the younger age. A child in the age group of 2 to 4 may not be in a position to understand what adoption is. You can start talking to your child when he or she turns 7 years old. It is the best age when child can easily become a part of this sensitive process. It is even better when you start this process at an earlier stage. It helps child to face the reality in the future life easily. However, age of the child for telling him or her about adoption can also depend upon the comfort level of parents. Making an adoption agency part of this tender process can help parents to make this process easier. An adoption agency from where the child is adopted can guide parents in better manner regarding this issue. It is always advisable to start this process as a part of the basic development of child right from his or her infancy. An ongoing process Talking to the child about adoption should be an ongoing process. You can start this process by telling your child how happy you are to have him. How your childs entrance in the family made it complete. This will create a sense of being special within your child. Talking to your child on regular basis will help you to reveal the entire adoption story in pieces till he or she matures. Never talk to your child directly about his or her birth history. Tell your child about adoption as a special event for your family and also in your childs life. Be honest Be honest and open to your child while you talk about adoption. Be careful that you do not portray adoption as a weird thing to your child. Try to answer all the questions of your child. Have a positive attitude while talking. Make adoption a casual thing at your home and with relatives and friends. Never make adoption a family secret, be open to others also. When you will try and make adoption the most beautiful thing of this world, the battle is won. Consequences of hiding truth Your child might get hurt if he gets to know about adoption form others. Sometimes friends and relatives may direct the understanding of your child in a wrong way. You should not wait to tell truth till child is attaining maturity. Critical condition can arise even if the truth is withheld till the child attains the age of 16, 18 or 30. It can be difficult for you to clear the misconceptions of your child in this situation. So it is better to avoid these kinds of situations by early initiative. When you try to hide from your child you are exposing more to the risk you are trying to avoid. Prepare your child to deal with rude people and friends As it is important to tell your child about adoption it is equally important to teach him or her to face the social problems. There will be some people who will be rude to your child. Teach your child how to deal with such people from the beginning. Tell your child what should be the answers when people ask about his or her adoption. You can also talk to your childs school, teachers, childs friends and their parents. This will help you to make your child feel comfortable When you start doing this, you will realise that the love and care will not let you down. After all parenting has an upper hand over giving birth to the child. And nothing has an upper hand over love. So make your child feel that nothing is as important as his entry in your life. Your love and care will bring out good result and help you to make your child a good human being.
Telling your child about his or her adoption is a must. You should talk to your child about it at the right time, openly and honestly. By
adopting a child you make a difference to the child's life. At the same time it has also changed your world.
Strengthen your heart from the beginning itself, while walking on the path of
parenting. The time will come when you will have to tell your
child that he or she is
adopted. Take it as your responsibility rather than running away from the reality.
Do not get overwhelmed; just make your
child understand his or her importance in your
life. Do not wait till your
child gets older. Discussing this topic at the right time will make it easy for both of you to cope with it. Here are few things that will support you while telling your
child about
adoption. Read on and make yourself more comfortable and ready for undergoing this sensitive process.
Do not be too late
Do not wait for a longer time to tell your
child. It is better to start talking to your child at the younger age. A child in the age group of 2 to 4 may not be in a position to understand what
adoption is. You can start talking to your
child when he or she turns 7 years old. It is the best age when child can easily become a part of this sensitive process. It is even better when you start this process at an earlier stage. It helps child to face the reality in the future life easily.
However, age of the child for telling him or her about adoption can also depend upon the comfort level of parents. Making an adoption agency part of this tender process can help parents to make this process easier. An adoption agency from where the child is adopted can guide parents in better manner regarding this issue. It is always advisable to start this process as a part of the basic development of child right from his or her infancy.
An ongoing process
Talking to the child about
adoption should be an ongoing process. You can start this process by telling your child how happy you are to have him. How your child's entrance in the
family made it complete. This will create a sense of being special within your child. Talking to your child on regular basis will help you to reveal the entire
adoption story in pieces till he or she matures. Never talk to your child directly about his or her
birth history. Tell your child about adoption as a special event for your
family and also in your child's life.
Be honest
Be honest and open to your child while you talk about
adoption. Be careful that you do not portray adoption as a weird thing to your child. Try to answer all the questions of your child. Have a
positive attitude while talking. Make adoption a casual thing at your home and with relatives and
friends. Never make adoption a
family secret, be open to others also. When you will try and make
adoption the most beautiful thing of this world, the battle is won.
Consequences of hiding truth
Your child might get hurt if he gets to know about
adoption form others. Sometimes friends and relatives may direct the understanding of your child in a wrong way. You should not wait to tell truth till child is attaining maturity. Critical condition can arise even if the truth is withheld till the child attains the age of 16, 18 or 30. It can be difficult for you to clear the misconceptions of your child in this situation. So it is better to avoid these kinds of situations by early initiative. When you try to hide from your child you are exposing more to the risk you are trying to avoid.
Prepare your child to deal with rude people and friends
As it is important to tell your child about adoption it is equally important to teach him or her to face the social problems. There will be some people who will be rude to your child. Teach your
child how to deal with such people from the beginning. Tell your
child what should be the answers when people ask about his or her
adoption. You can also talk to your child's
school,
teachers, child's friends and their parents. This will help you to make your child feel comfortable
When you start doing this, you will realise that the
love and care will not let you down. After all parenting has an upper hand over giving birth to the
child. And nothing has an upper hand over love. So make your
child feel that nothing is as important as his entry in your life. Your love and care will bring out good result and help you to make your child a good human being.
