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How to Say Sorry to Kids




Saying sorry to kids may seem impractical for parents, but this is the best thing to do if you are in the wrong. Saying sorry for your actions earns you a mutual respect and also this helps a lot when dealing with kids. Learn more about how to say sorry to kids.

Parenting  is a difficult job. You might stumble and do certain things that are not right,  which you realise a moment later. But when you consider saying  sorry for your actions, you just do not feel like saying it. You feel that  as a parent you need not be apologetic and it is the kid’s prerogative to say  sorry whenever required. This is a wrong approach in dealing with and  disciplining kids. As you teach the kid to say sorry and mean it, when they  commit a mistake likewise you also need to say sorry to the kid, when you  happen to make any mistakes. This will help you in disciplining the child  better and help you bond better as wel.


Saying Sorry to Kids

Here  are few things that we need to keep in mind while dealing with kids:

They Understand Apologies  

We might feel that they are kids and hence, saying sorry is a mechanical thing for  them and there is nothing much to look into it. While it is true in most cases  that kids say sorry just as uttering any other word, but you can teach him the  manner to say sorry and mean it too, through example.
The  kid looks up to you as a parent, they accept your authority in their life and  often feel that your actions are justified, although may not be pleasing all  the time. So when you turn around and say sorry for something that you feel you  have done wrong or feel that what you have done or said has hurt the kid, it  will be appreciated by the kid. He will simultaneously learn to value other’s feelings and emotions and grow up with a better understanding.

The Need to Say Sorry  

Discipline is all inclusive and not a fragmented sense of justice. As mentioned earlier, you ought to say sorry  when you think that you need to. The kids need to understand that whenever one is in the wrong, it must be accepted and measures taken so that it does not get repeated.

The Approach

The approach to apologising is the next vital point. Each kid has a different personality and not all should be treated in the same manner. As a parent, you are in the best position to understand the nature of your child and behave accordingly. Some kids are very sensitive emotionally. So if you feel that you need to say sorry,  be prompt and earnest.

Apologising is not the same as Bribing the Child

Often parents feel that the only way of pacifying a kid and saying sorry is by giving in to his demands, or getting him the toy that he has been hankering after. This is again a wrong approach. If you are required to say sorry, it is for  some wrong behaviour or action on your part. So by saying sorry, you mean that you understand and realise that it has caused pain or hurt the kid and you will refrain from repeating it further. This is an emotional activity and you should not bring it to a material level. Sorry is a feeling, you should not top it with bribes. This will hamper the discipline of the kid and he will fail to realise the essence of the apology.

No Apology is better than a Fake Apology

This is very important as many parents feel that saying sorry is just a routine  courtesy that has to be followed. We need to help our kids grow as humans and  not robots. Just as you will not like it if your child says sorry for some mistake without meaning it, similarly you have to understand that the child is constantly learning from you. Children are taking vital cues from your actions and if they find that you are earnest in your apology, they will behave in the same manner.

As mentioned above, there is nothing wrong in the approach to say sorry when you do something wrong  or say something wrong to the kid. It surely does make you appear weak. Rather, you will slowly note that such mutual respect will help your child grow up stronger, fairer and ethical.

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Varsha.3 years ago
wish my folks had said this often to me. I apologise when unknowingly I hurt my child and he's quick to bounce back. Love to see is smiling face every morning before going off to Orchids.
 
 
 
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Riya.4 years ago
It does take a strong parent to say sorry. Recently my kid came out of the school little late while I was waiting outside to pick him up. He was playing with his friends. He saw me and came out of the school and said Sorry I came late. I felt happy that I taught him to apologize when he makes mistakes. Every parent should learn to say sorry so that the kids can easily learn how to say sorry.
 
 
 
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Payal.4 years ago
Imagine family is like playing a cricket game where one makes a mistake but yet another player compensates it with by taking wickets or making more runs. To keep everything intact, one needs to understand and feel sorry for the mistakes done. First of all, as parents, they should cultivate the habit of forgiveness and acceptance, By seeing them, children will automatically learn this art of forgiveness.
 
 
 
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Pratichee.4 years ago
great article...indeed parents should say sorry when they do something wrong. This way they are being a role model to their kids.
 
 
 
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Katy Mince.4 years ago
I try to explain my behaviour to my kids, when i do something wrong. Gradually i make them feel better and then say a sorry. this eases out all the tensions.
 
 
 
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Sanders.4 years ago
I apologize for almost everything that I do wrong. and my kids also know the value of sorry so they also promptly say sorry.
 
 
 
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