Arguing with kids is a total waste of time and energy. Arguments can only give rise to stress and tensions so it is better to avoid them. Have a quick look at the tips to avoid arguments with kids.
You, as a parent, want your children to learn to speak, communicate, stand on their own, and become independent thinkers. All these also teach them how to argue. They can turn out to be argumentative, stubborn, strong-willed, and adamant. Then no matter how much you try to make them understand, they would end up arguing hard to prove their point correct. It is best to avoid such arguments with kids as it results to nowhere if you argue with them. Here are few ways how to avoid argument with them.
Save Your Energy
Always keep in mind what were you when you were at the same age your kids are of now. You also were curious of so many things, asking reasons of many things that you were asked to do – all of these your kids also experience. No matter how much you try to explain them, they will never learn from your experiences; they will learn from their own experiences when they become adults, so sometimes you need to leave it loose. It is really difficult to get things in their thick skull at such an early age. It leads to the wastages of time and energy if you keep arguing with them.
Accept the Inescapable
It is important to stay cool. Substitute your negative thoughts about your kids with positive thoughts. Avoid arguing and accept the inevitable. Your children will not like many of your decisions; try to compromise with some of them that are not much of an issue if you analyze calmly. You are responsible for what you feel and what you do, but not your child. Think that you love your children, but may dislike what they are doing at the moment. Remember you cannot force your kids to do anything. Have some faith in the words: “This, too, shall pass”.
Set the Rules Earlier
Set few rules at your home and make sure everyone follows them including you. Allow routines to be the boss of your house, so that you do not have to be a part of the argument, all you say is that either “that is how the house rule says”. If you are ready with the breakfast, do not lose the patience of asking your children to wash their hands before showing up at the table; instead, ask them what the rule says before coming for food. They would get the hint what you want them to do.
Many arguments can be avoided if you offer open-ended choices to your kids. This makes your kids feel good as you are allowing them to make decisions. Do not get sarcastic and give choices that you do not like your kids to follow through on. Always give them options that are feasible with you and your children as well. This saves a lot of arguments to occur between you and your kids.
Do not try to reason; instead of that, you can discuss with your kids the reason behind the decisions you make. Just because you have got good results of what you have done, you cannot expect your kids to find that reason strong and follow you for the same. Your children would understand such things when they become adults, so there is no use convincing them for any such thing. Just avoid such arguments.
Because You Said So
Occasionally, you need to use the phrase: “Because I said so”. You have to show your children where you stand as a parent. Children do not like it, but they totally understand it. But make sure that you do not hit or spank your child for ending the argument.
An argument occurs only if you allow it to occur. Arguing with kids is just a waste of time and energy. Using the above mentioned ways, you can actually ignore the useless argument between you and your kids. So when you feel that arguments are about to kick-off, try to divert your child’s mind to something else and enjoy a peaceful time.
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