children do selective hearing and this is one of the biggest problems that
parents face. It becomes really very difficult to teach your child discipline
if he either stubbornly refuses to obey or ignores you. Read on to learn how
you can get your kids listen to you.
Parenting is one of the most difficult
tasks in the world. When things go right and kids understand and start
listening to you, you need not worry. But as soon as they start ignoring you,
it becomes difficult to keep calm. The biggest mistake that parents
do here is either they yell or
preach them for 10 - 15 minutes each time. This often makes things worse.
Ways to Get Your Kids Listen To You
Have a quick look at some
tips to get your kids listen to you.
Make Things Clear
No matter what the situation is you should make it
clear to your kids what exactly you want him to do. You should use clear
commands and try to be to the point. Limit your instruction to few important
words and see the effect. Avoid accusing, criticizing, threatening and even
Mind the Tone of Your
The way you say a certain thing is more important
than what you are saying. Use encouraging and positive tone when you are giving
any kind of instruction to your kid. Make sure you avoid nagging. Ask once
nicely, second time firmly and then third time take action with warning.
When you need to give instructions you should either
come closer or call your child to come to you. Do not shout from another room.
Try to get down to your child’s
height and have eye contact when
you want him to listen to you. You can also make him repeat so that he
remembers what he has to do.
Make Your Child Understand
If your child repeatedly disobeys you at
some point, you should provide him with the right information so that he knows
exactly why you ask him to do specific work. For example, if your child does
not flush the toilet after use, you can say, toilet gets stinky when it is not
Let Your Child Decide
Sometimes kids just do not listen to
parents. You inform your kid about the consequences of disobeying you and then let him decide what to do. You can also
talk firmly to him if he still ignores your instruction.
Listen to Your Kids
When you expect your child
to listen to you, you need to be a good
listener too. Even though you have
lots of pressure as a parent, you should pay attention to what your kids are
saying because most of the kids tend to ignore when they feel that their
parents never listen to what they say.
Careful listening shows that
you care for your child and you are concerned about his feelings also. When you
start listening to your kids you will find that various problems evaporate
almost instantly. Most important of all if you listen to your child, he will
listen to you.
- Pay full attention to what your child is saying. Turn to your child and listen to him by making eye contact.
- Do not give blank look. Acknowledge what your child is saying by giving one word or at least by nodding.
- If your child is telling you about something that happened in school or while playing with other kids, there is a feeling hidden behind words. Try to identify and name it.
While keeping in mind and
using the above tips to make your child listens to you, you should also praise
and reward cooperation. Remember, the process should be full of warmth and
What should be done when
kids stop listening to their parents? Is it correct to punish the child if he
or she does not listen to his or her parents? What are effective ways to get
kids to listen to parents? Discuss