The desire to indulge in sex or being sexually
active is fuelled by peer pressure during teenage. Find out how to help teenagers
to cope with peer pressure and sex.
Teenage is fun and exciting, but it
comes with its own baggage of issues. There are certain invariable components
in a teen’s life: peer pressure, dealing and coping with them and making
certain choices when the options are almost infinite are just a couple of them.
This period of adolescence
is one when the teen is gradually beginning to know and come face to face with
a lot of realities, the realities of life, the physiological changes and deal
with the impact that these realisations cause on their mental setup.
When the hormones are rushing, the teen
requires a support base to settle on, soothe him and gain composure. As they
get to feel and see the changes taking place in their bodies, the urge to
experiment and explore rises further. They feel the desire to indulge in sex
and here, peer
pressure can play an extremely negative
role in the teen’s life. The teen needs to hold on to his support base for
assurance and be equipped with the right awareness so that he can make informed
Pressure for Sex
The peer group is present in every
teen’s life. Now, it is a different matter whether they are of the one that is
conducive to the wellness or otherwise. If the peer group is already saddled
with some undesired characteristics, i.e. they are themselves immersed in
and actions concerning underage sex, then your teen needs to be made able to
cope and deal with this peer pressure effectively.
do They Fall in This Pressure
Being sexually active is portrayed as
being ‘cool’. Thus the pressure of giving in comes from the primary objective
of fitting into the group. In the current scenario, sexually explicit content
is readily available in the regular media and pornography is out in the open
like never before. So you would not even imagine segregating your growing teenager
from the reach of these options.
In a peer group, as it is mostly found,
teens exchange information on sex and on other related details on the opposite
sex and the urge to ‘try it out’ generates. Building friendships for dating,
and then moving on to sex are perceived to be ‘natural’ and ‘cool’. Here it is
not unnatural for the teen to take this bait of ‘trying it out’. There is also
this idea that they are not ‘man enough’ until they have done it, and if a girl
is not sexually active, there’s something fishy about her sexual orientation,
Curiosity Factor Fuelled By the Environment
As mentioned earlier, sexual content is
available in varied proportions in every form of the media and with the easy
and frequent use of the internet, getting a hold on such content is extremely
easy. When the teen is gradually getting to experience the changes taking place
in their bodies and minds, they actually require a consolidated mental support.
The feeling of titillation that the teen experiences during sex-talk makes him
urge for the experience and then, the peer group is there to propel this
desire. The teenage is a period when the individual craves for attention and
acceptance. Sex is one such condition and action where this craving is
is The Key
As a parent
or guardian you can help the teen cope with peer pressure and sex by making him
aware of all related information. The manner in which the physiological changes
taking place in the bodies of the boys and girls as they reach adolescence, and
the whole purpose of these changes, the manner in which these changes can
affect our lives, and what are the aspects that we need to keep in mind once we
are beginning to ‘grow up’.
Finally, help the teen understand that
sex is not something that he or she ought to be pressurised into. It should be
one’s informed decision. Restraint and using good judgement is some of the
aspects that need to be explained in detail to the teen so that he or she
learns to be accountable for his or her action.
Be a pleasant companion to your teen.
Encourage him to share his queries and feelings with you unreservedly, provide
him with genuine answers and do not behave as it is a shady topic to talk about
or cringe at the mention of it. Awareness alone can help the teen cope with
peer pressure related to sex quite effectively.