Parents can help teens cope with addiction if
they adopt lenient approach. Go through the following tips to help your teen
fight against the addiction effectively.
or the teenage years are very vital from the point of view of growing up for
the teen and parenting for the parents. This is a period when the character
acquires shape and teens learn and imbibe a lot from their immediate
environment. If the teen happens to be in the wrong company and there is a peer
pressure to try out drugs or any other sort of undesirable practices, as parent
your responsibility doubles up in helping the teen come out of the environment
and at the same time revive or inculcate best practices again in his persona.
Addiction can be of many forms. As you help your teen cope with it, there are
few important points for parents to remember:
This is the very primary point. Many
parents waste a lot of vital time living in denial that their teen is in any
way related to drugs,
obscene material or substance abuse. Either they nurture a wrong notion on
their teen or they believe that denying the fact will also some way negate it.
This is a wrong approach. You are losing out precious time where you could have
actually helped the teen
come out of the addiction.
With Your Teen
Always make it a point that the channel
is open. The teen should never feel awkward or hesitate in communicating with
you. Build a relationship where you can talk to your teen casually, you can
joke around, discuss thoughts ideas, be playful, chide him when necessary, be
firm and yet, behave like a parent whom the kid is supposed to listen to and
respect. These are attitudes that you need to cultivate early.
When the teen is in any sort of
addiction, you need to talk to him and understand his thoughts and point of
view as to what has led him towards the addiction and what are his present
feelings about it. Let him know that you are aware of the addiction, but
remember; your approach should be of help from an authority, on whom the teen
can confide and share his thoughts, and not of rebuke.
Mature, Share Love
As a parent it is very difficult to deal
with the fact that your teen is addicted to some unhealthy habit. But since you
are the mature individual it is required of you to deal with the situation with
a great deal of care. Just because your teen is pursuing a bad habit, it does
not mean that you will stop loving him. Teens are emotionally very vulnerable.
They develop this feeling that once they are caught having an addiction, which
they are well aware is a bad and undesired habit, their parents will not love
them anymore. This makes them feel further insecure and they fall in the pit of
addiction even more. Show your genuine love and concern, this will assure him
that he is cared for nonetheless and he will be open to listen to you.
the Teen as an Individual
It is important that as you try to help
the teen cope with addiction and come out of it, you treat the teen with
respect, respect his individuality. Do not make the mistake of rebuking him for
his wrong choices or actions. As you talk to him try to understand the weak
points or moments that have led him to this addiction and then work towards it
through professional help if necessary. But at first, you must respect the teen
and not make him feel anything lesser.
Finally, you need to gather all the
required details of the addiction. This can be done through proper observation
of the teen’s behaviour, by communication with him openly, from his peer group
and sometimes from his teachers. But do not let mistrust guide you in this
endeavour, take the teen in confidence that you are working towards a common
goal that is, coming out of the addiction as it is a bad habit. Do not make the
teen feel embarrassed and ashamed in the process, that it affects his self
esteem and feels down and insecure. Provide him with love and support so as to
build the will power and fight against the addiction effectively.