Some children are reserved in nature, such children feels shy in talking to others. Some constructive efforts by parents can help a child come out of his shell.
Read on for tips to help your shy child improve her social skills and overcome her bashfulness.
Lata was the mother of bubbly six-year-old Kareena, who was a talkative, perky little livewire at home,
but the minute she was placed in a social setting, she would
immediately clam up. When Lata's friends would try and speak to
Kareena, she would hide behind mama's sari and refuse to answer. With
great difficulty Lata would manage to coax one or two sentences out of
her, but no more. She couldn't understand how her child, who was such a chatterbox at home, could be so painfully shy in front of others.
Like Lata, many parents have children who can be very shy when placed
in social situations. While they usually do gradually grow out of it,
here's what you can do to help them make the transition smoother.
Have more get-togethers at home. This will help your child grow accustomed to having new people around her. Encourage your child to come out when you have guests over and greet them. Huge parties may overwhelm your child, so invite small groups, maybe even one person or one couple at a time over for tea or dinner. Make sure your child comes out and eats with the guests, not in her room. The more people you expose your child to, the more likely she is to open up.
Listen to your child when she is speaking to you, and give her your full attention. If you ignore your child when she is trying to get your attention or if you let your attention
wander, she will sense it immediately and may start developing feelings
of inadequacy. This will lead her to start speaking less. Similarly,
even if you are living in a large joint family but no one really
listens to your child or has long conversations with her, she will withdraw into a shell. Needless to say, this is just one of the reasons your child may be shy. There are many other reasons which have nothing to do with you. Your child may be shy even if you are the most attentive mother in the world. She probably just has an introverted nature.
Don't label her
Don't label her as shy, and don't discuss her shyness with others in
her presence, otherwise she may get it into her head that she is shy,
and will behave accordingly.
Speak with your child's teacher at school about your child's shyness, and request her to call upon your child
often, along with other children, to read a paragraph from the textbook
in class. Speaking up aloud in public will definitely help. Incorporate
this public speaking culture at home, by teaching your child
poems and then asking her to say them out aloud in front of your
spouse, her grandparents or in front of other people in whose presence
she is comfortable. Don't push her to perform in front of strangers.
Last of all, remember that shyness is a sign of sensitivity, which is a good thing and will help your child grow up to be a fine, compassionate person.
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