Unplanned pregnancy and divorce are two equally
stressful terms. These are situations that inadvertently bring along stress in
life. It is a very delicate and difficult situation when in the couple decides
to divorce and the woman
discovers her pregnancy. It is the most unexpected and unplanned situation for
both the woman and the man. You have two options, whether you terminate the
pregnancy or decide to complete the term and have the baby. The decision
basically depends on the following factors.
- The situation surrounding the divorce, that is, the current relationship between the couple.
- The state of pregnancy and the health condition of the woman in relation to it.
- The aspirations and requirements of both the man and the woman regarding the birth of a child at this moment.
What
Do You Do?
Based on the answers to these situations, the couple
may decide to go ahead or terminate
the pregnancy. Here are some situations that the
couple chooses:
Whether to Postpone or Continue Divorce
Proceeding
Often it is found that the couple decides to stay
together and postpone the divorce till after the birth of the child. Since they
are already decided with the divorce, they use this time to discus about the
custody of the child, choose options regarding child support along with the
visitation issues. This is a utilitarian time that transforms into future
planning.
The couple may also decide to continue with the
divorce proceedings during the pregnancy term and try to deal with the
unplanned situation by planning out the future of the baby meantime. This means
that they decide to include child support and visitation issues in their final
settlement for divorce. Both the parents decide to become a part of the baby’s
future life and plan the proceedings accordingly.
Unplanned Pregnancy May Help to Solve
Problems
It is also found in a number of cases that an unplanned
pregnancy helps the couple to come together. It turns out to
be an equally unplanned opportunity where the couple begins to feel that they
have a reason to make another attempt to settle in the marriage. They
reconsider their decision to divorce
make a conscious attempt to work together for the benefit of the unborn child.
They also visit marriage counselors so that they can work on and solve their
irreconcilable differences.
Factors to be Considered in Case of
Unplanned Pregnancy and Divorce
The factors that you cannot afford to overlook when an unplanned pregnancy
and divorce collide.
Financial Security
If you plan to complete the pregnancy term and give birth to the baby, make
sure that the child is born in a situation where he meets all his necessary
requirements. The mother must be sure that she will be able to provide for her
healthcare and baby’s
needs, if she is the custodian. If she is not earning her livelihood, she
needs to discuss the issue with her husband and call for a financial settlement
as a part of the divorce procedure.
Meeting the Baby’s Growing up Necessities
This is an extension of the first point, except the financial part. It is
not just food and money that the baby needs for growing up. Love and support
and a congenial environment are extremely necessary to ensure that the child
has a healthy childhood. Since he will be growing up in a situation where his
biological parents are already divorced, you need to ensure that he has the
love and emotional support. You need to ensure that you are able to play the
role of both the parents as it is crucial for a healthy mental development of
the child.
