Parenting an adolescent or teenage daughter the right way is a big responsibility on parents, especially on mothers. A mother has to prepare the girl and guide her through the changes as she enters adolescence. Here are a few tips for parenting a teenage daughter.Parenting an adolescent girl is quite different from parenting a teenage boy. This is because, the difference in nature and attribute between men and women gets pronounced mainly during this very stage and the teenage girls are more likely to get overwhelmed by them. If you suddenly find your little girls who was blissful in twirling around in her flowery skirt at one moment and climbing up the balcony or the tree in your orchard with equal zest, become silent and withdrawn, it means something has changed. Well, she has entered adolescence. Behaviour change from a little to a large extent is nothing unnatural, but the girl sure needs a bit of support to deal with adolescence. In this articleCauses of Behavioural Changes in a Teenage GirlTips for Parenting a Teenage DaughterCauses of Behavioural Changes in a Teenage Girl All the changes that you notice in your teenage daughter is caused by major shifts in the hormonal balances. From the physical point of view, the girl has entered puberty. So there will be some noticeable changes in her body as well. As a parent and especially as a mother, you need to guide the girl through the changes. It is better if you can prepare the girl even before she enters adolescence. But you can also do it when it has just happened. Explain to her that the changes that she now perceives in her body are normal as it is a part of physiology and everyone goes through it. Often it is found that adolescent girls feel that they are alone going through these changes and if they do not have a clear idea on them or lack support from people around them, they feel somewhat victimised, and the later behavioural problems gain their root. Explain to her that the curves she is developing, her enlarging breasts or the onset of periods is all but natural. If this is carefully explained, the change in her emotional behaviour and state will also be easier to deal with. In the adolescent period, the girls tend to become extremely moody as the hormonal shifts cause mood swings, either get withdrawn or turn aggressive, suffer from self doubt and lack of self esteem along with eating and sleeping disorders. Here you need to be very careful in raising your teenage daughter as there is great possibility that if ignored, these temporary symptoms of adolescence might turn into a serious depression. Tips for Parenting a Teenage Daughter Have a quick look at the tips for parenting a teenage daughter. Apart from being a mother, turn yourself into a friend of your daughter.Pay attention to her thoughts and feelings and give a patient hearing whenever she expresses herself, also encourage her to do so.Keep the lines of communication always open.Be casual in your approach, your daughter should feel comfortable in expressing herself and sharing her feelings with you.Let her express the fears of self doubt growing inside her without hesitation.Explain to her that this is nothing to be serious about as everyone, including her mother she has passed through this phase. Listen to her sympathetically when she shares a certain event in school, like why she was being stared at or treated differently by the boys. Remember, if she knows what is causing the change, she will be better equipped to deal with it. Do not be judgmental when you hear her out or make the grave mistake of directing her to stay away from boys. Teach her the biological development and difference along with the importance of respecting individuality. This will automatically condition her to face the real world and deal with situations that you are afraid of as a mother. Finally, instill self confidence in her as you teach her to celebrate womanhood. Tell her that it is a challenge and a way of life, where there is nothing to be hesitant or ashamed of. Encourage her to continue with her regular activities and help her stay involved in some activity or the other that she really enjoys. Since the natural focus at this stage is on the changes happening inside and around her, if she finds a suitable distraction in saying, painting or music or even gardening, that is any activity that she really enjoys, she will be better able to deal with adolescence effectively. Meanwhile, never forget to compliment her on her good qualities, talents and achievements.
Parenting an adolescent or teenage daughter the right way is a big responsibility on parents, especially on mothers. A mother has to prepare the girl and guide her through the changes as she enters adolescence. Here are a few tips for parenting a teenage daughter.Parenting an adolescent girl is quite different from parenting a teenage boy. This is because, the difference in nature and attribute between men and women gets pronounced mainly during this very stage and the teenage girls are more likely to get overwhelmed by them. If you suddenly find your little girls who was blissful in twirling around in her flowery skirt at one moment and climbing up the balcony or the tree in your orchard with equal zest, become silent and withdrawn, it means something has changed. Well, she has entered adolescence. Behaviour change from a little to a large extent is nothing unnatural, but the girl sure needs a bit of support to deal with adolescence.
All the changes that you notice in your teenage daughter is caused by major shifts in the hormonal balances. From the physical point of view, the girl has entered puberty. So there will be some noticeable changes in her body as well. As a parent and especially as a mother, you need to guide the girl through the changes. It is better if you can prepare the girl even before she enters adolescence.
But you can also do it when it has just happened. Explain to her that the changes that she now perceives in her body are normal as it is a part of physiology and everyone goes through it. Often it is found that adolescent girls feel that they are alone going through these changes and if they do not have a clear idea on them or lack support from people around them, they feel somewhat victimised, and the later behavioural problems gain their root.
Explain to her that the curves she is developing, her enlarging breasts or the onset of periods is all but natural. If this is carefully explained, the change in her emotional behaviour and state will also be easier to deal with. In the adolescent period, the girls tend to become extremely moody as the hormonal shifts cause mood swings, either get withdrawn or turn aggressive, suffer from self doubt and lack of self esteem along with eating and sleeping disorders. Here you need to be very careful in raising your teenage daughter as there is great possibility that if ignored, these temporary symptoms of adolescence might turn into a serious depression.
Tips for Parenting a Teenage Daughter
Have a quick look at the tips for parenting a teenage daughter.
Apart from being a mother, turn yourself into a friend of your daughter.
Pay attention to her thoughts and feelings and give a patient hearing whenever she expresses herself, also encourage her to do so.
Keep the lines of communication always open.
Be casual in your approach, your daughter should feel comfortable in expressing herself and sharing her feelings with you.
Let her express the fears of self doubt growing inside her without hesitation.
Explain to her that this is nothing to be serious about as everyone, including her mother she has passed through this phase.
Listen to her sympathetically when she shares a certain event in school, like why she was being stared at or treated differently by the boys. Remember, if she knows what is causing the change, she will be better equipped to deal with it. Do not be judgmental when you hear her out or make the grave mistake of directing her to stay away from boys.
Teach her the biological development and difference along with the importance of respecting individuality. This will automatically condition her to face the real world and deal with situations that you are afraid of as a mother.
Finally, instill self confidence in her as you teach her to celebrate womanhood. Tell her that it is a challenge and a way of life, where there is nothing to be hesitant or ashamed of. Encourage her to continue with her regular activities and help her stay involved in some activity or the other that she really enjoys.
Since the natural focus at this stage is on the changes happening inside and around her, if she finds a suitable distraction in saying, painting or music or even gardening, that is any activity that she really enjoys, she will be better able to deal with adolescence effectively. Meanwhile, never forget to compliment her on her good qualities, talents and achievements.
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I have a teenager and boy it is getting harder than ever to get her to do anything or even be civil to me :( This article made for an interesting read. Shall try some tips from here. Got to share this with a friend of mine (Our daughters are friends and study at the same school ). She too was complaining of her daughter's behaviour at home. Both of them are pretty good academically and are well behaved at school. At home, they are at their brattiest best!
I have a daughter who is soon to enter her teens. I want her to be comfortable with me and share her thoughts. your article was an eye opener and it helped me to connect with my daughter.