Does your infant prefer to be alone mostly? Is he too shy? Read on to find if your baby is an introvert.
Meenal from Mumbai wonders if her baby is shy.
Whenever she brings guests home, her eleven-month-old tends to move
away or cover his head with the nearest object. She wonders if shyness is inherited, as she was quite shy herself in her childhood and did not enjoy dealing with new people, places, and things.
in babies is common but Meenal's child could possibly be an introvert,
or a person who is constantly preoccupied with his own thoughts and
feelings, and finds it difficult to interact with new people or adjust to different situations and places. Both, introversion and shyness, are traits of normal behaviour that usually occurs when babies are exposed to an overwhelming social experience, such as the presence of many strangers.
Reading the Behaviour of Introverted Babies
Introverts can be recognised by their withdrawn, reserved behaviour. It is estimated that 30 percent of the world consists of introverts. Most people are a mix of introverted and extroverted in behaviour (extroverts or extraverts are more sociable and enjoy the company of other people).
The behaviour of introverted babies almost appears to say:
"Let me get out of here": Introverted babies can be identified easily when they move away from strangers, bright lights, sounds, etc. In marked contrast, extroverts enjoy being held even by people other than their parents.
"Do not enter my space": Some introverts do not like other people entering 'their territory' or touching their bodies and toys. Extroverts, on the other hand, enjoy the presence of playmates, young or old.
"Let me be alone": Many babies prefer solitude or playing only with people whom they recognise.
"Who are you?": Introverts, often, stare intensely at an unfamiliar face. This is their way of taking people on their own terms.
Why is My Baby Shy?
The reasons for shyness and introversion are not properly understood. Here are some possible causes:
Researchers believe that shyness is an inherited behaviour. However, your baby's eventual personality is affected by several other factors other than genetics.
When introverts find their surroundings too overwhelming,
such as a loud party or a bright room, they tend to withdraw, helping
them gain a sense of control.
Nature provides all infants with a natural aloofness towards
unfamiliar people. Babies recognise faces at an early age, and are only
comfortable with people they know, for example, their parents.
How Do I Help My Introverted Toddler?
If your child is introverted, it does not mean that he is
unsociable or abnormal. It only means he is different. In fact, many
famous and successful people were introverts. However, there are
certain things you can do to help your child feel comfortable:
Avoid force and negative reinforcement
Maybe your baby does not like to do something or be with someone, but do not use force. Avoid frowning, criticising, shouting, or any negative
approach when your child does not do what you want him to do. Use
positive methods instead by rewarding good behaviour. For example, smile or praise your child when he shares his favourite toys with others.
Socialise with as many people as possible
It is important that your child does not develop anxiety or acute discomfort in the presence
of others as he grows up. From an early age, encourage your child to
play with different children and people. A playschool or any place
where different children play in the same room is ideal. Be with your
child initially, and use toys to lure your child into playing with
other children. Do not worry if he still does not socialise.
Encourage people to respect his space
Introverts take time to be comfortable with a new person. Hence,
encourage guests to hold him only when he wants it. The toddler may not
tolerate the guest touching his toys, food, or clothes. Once your child
is used to the new person, he will be friendly on his own terms.
Teach by example
Children learn a lot from their parents just by observing them.
Are you too jittery, anxious, or extremely shy? Develop your own
Avoid sensory overload
Some children like to do one thing at a time. Keep your baby away from bright lights, noise, traffic, loud parties, etc. as far as possible.
Introversion is not a disorder, and hence do not worry. What is important is that your child develops a healthy self-esteem and feels comfortable in the presence of others as he grows up.
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