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I don't know if this is the right board to come to but I am just about over the edge here. No where else to turn.
Husband and I have been married for 30 years. We have four children (girl and three sons) now all grown. When our oldest was 16 my mother in law came and took her saying that we were not good parents. The truth is our daughter was a spoiled child from the constant munipulations and interferences from the day she was born. As my daughter was leaving our home with the mother in law from hell, my husband just sat there in shock and did nothing. This woman did everything one can think of to claim our daughter even taking it as far as court to claim child support. The court through it out as a waste of time on the public expence. We have not talked to the M-I-L for 15 years. Now all the sudden our daughter wants us all to make things right and start talking and acting like a \";family\"; again. I just can't! For three years our daughter had nothing to do with us while the MIL bought her car after car that were wrecked, trashed, and bailed our daughter out of all types of inmature actions. Today my husband called his mom for the first time and I swear he talked to her as if nothing had ever happened. His voice changes from a mans to a momma's boy even to this day. I truly think this may be the end to our relationship. I truly don't know what or how to handle this. Any suggestions would be appreciated. tina replied. whatever your MIL did was wrong and nasty, and you do not have to forgive her. don't forget you said that you had nothing to do with her for 15 years, and your husband did not speak to her for all this time either. she gave u hell, and if you do not want to forgive her, it is your right. but your daughter has been attached to her, and it is wrong to interfere with her relationship with her grandmother or with your husband;s relationship with his mother. he did not speak to her for 15 years, and now when she is old and on the request of his daughter to ;forgive and forget; he is ready to do so. i'm shocked that you are saying this is the end of your relationship with your husband. what do u have to fear from this woman? nothing. so why do u care if your husband is in touch with her. make it clear that no matter what, she will never come and live iwth you. other than that, let your husband make his own decision. if he is not forcing u to speak to her, why are u forcing him not to?