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Yup you need another vacation to recover from one to India. If i had a huge crane, I would love to put the ILS on another planet till i stay on earth!

got some incidents..
i did my delivery at my husbands place just to be kind to him. Ours was an out of the way marraige where my In-laws have sworn they wont speak to my parents ever. Good for me (-;
after abt 3 months, i went to my mom's place. one afternoon i was sleeping, and my cell(they call me on my cell only) was left in another room. They were enroute to some one's wedding and were going to pass a highway about 15 minutes walking distance. So in the bombay summer, at 3 pm they had wanted me to get my 3 month old daughter for them to see. They were missing her so much (!!) Would have done that if their approach had been correct. They called up my husband who was abroad, saying things like \";your wife...\";My husband could reach me fast coz he called on the landline and told me casually w/o the backgrnd abt them being so agitated. I called back and i could hear only angry grunts about how i didnt pick up their call on purpose. i was put off and said its too hot, i wouldnt wake up a sleeping child, anyways i am too come in 2 days, so sorry.

Ooof! This set off such a barage..my god. I was naive then. I cried and cried and hated going to that sickly house, as if it was going to eat me up without trace!

My husband was going to return in in some days. Till then another controversy with SIL's ILs started where they complained of her speaking too much without any base and that she should try keep her tongue in check. well that settled it. Suddenly I was laughing in my head! maybe at them, but it helped relieve my negativity! To see them clamour to sort things with the SIls Ils for just the same reason.

What goes around comes around.

i am going for supposedly a vacation,without my husband. no cover!! dont know how i come back, but am happy am atleast going to see my family.
they are worth it.

I guess the past experiences keeps playing in my head so much, i am unable to 'not give a damn'. But I am getting better. My daughter's birth has given me a cause to be. vd replied. I totally agree with you to leave ILs on other planet. Vacations are not fun in India. Initially even I used to cry a lot. But, Don't think about them. Go to your parents place, Enjoy. If your husband wants to stay , let him stay with his family. We make sure to go when there is no festival, Diwali, birthday etc, as both of us would like to spend time with their family. Better you celebrate at your place.

Secondly, other convenient way is get a Tag of Bad DIL. Don't mingle much, no phone calls, no gifts, no emails.

I have been married for 6 years and realised that it is only DILs who will call in ILs, but husbands wont call our parents. So I don't do that nay more.



augustborn replied. Hey There!
First of all, have a great vacation. I know there would be spots of bad moments but as far as I can see, you are a spunky girl and will stand up for yourself. Good for you...Do your duty towards your IL's but dont let them take you for granted..that's the mantra...:)
It would be difficult to ignore certain things and remarks at times but as they say 'Pick your battles'...you will be fine!

Have a blast..enjoy your vacation and do let us how how it all went...I am sure you will have a lot of funny and not so funny incidents to relate...:)

Cheers!