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Hi,

My MIL has been here for the past few months. She came here to take care of our baby as we both are working. So far everything went well without any problems. My baby is 18 months old and I still feed her in the nighttime. When I am at work, Sometime my baby remembers me and asks for milk. My mother in law told me when my baby wanted me for milk, she will show her's to tease my baby that this is not your mom. I took it lightly and didn't mistake it. But every now and then she tells me the same thing. Yesterday, she told me when she showed her breasts to my baby, my baby almost went for grabbing it with her mouth. I was shocked to hear that. Is this a normal behaiour by elders? or Am I thinking wrong? Why is she doing this when I am aleady trying to wean her? I am not able to talk to this my husband as he will feel bad if I talk something about his mom. Am I thinking too much? sonia replied. My MIL took a bath with my daughter...Naked.
She told me one day when my daughter was 2 yrs old that she took her to the bathroom...got undressed..got in the bath and told my child to wash her back.
My child being innocent did as she was told and then my MIL told her to take off her clothes and get in the bath with her..I was shocked at such terrible behaviour.

I cried for days after that.
My MIL WANTED TO DO IT AGAIN AND i FIRMLY TOLD HER NO.

I still feel I cannot leave my daughter with her alone. she is now nearly 4 and my son is 3 months old.

I cannot believe her stupidity...if anything like this happens again I will tell her I'm calling the police...that should get her thinking. P replied. Hello there,

This sounds very very strange. Your MIL is really not building a healthy relationship with the kid. Plus this can also negatively affect the young mind of the little one. He/ she might get confused...though with experience i believe the child can very well smell the fragrance of the mother & will never accept anyone else in place of his mother...

Please clearly state it to your MIL that such behaviour from her is not acceptable to you...if she still persist to do the same, please include your husband in this and sort out the matter...never in God's name ignore such kind of thing which may later affect the behaviuor of your little one.

Best wishes!! pb replied. Oh geez, how horrible!

Go tell your husband. Maybe she doesnt mean anything..but if i were in your place, i would be scared for life!

i mean anyone can have their whims, as long as they keep it to themselves. Not at the expnse of my baby!!

Maybe this is not a really serious matter. I dont know. But the protection and healthy growth of our babay is upto you. why wait for something to clear your doubts? Stop while you are still uncomfortable. who knows what tomorrow. Reema replied. hi

I dont know why she is doing that. but thats horrible. please can you stop her. i think your baby will might be hate you she or he thinks same way for you that you saw her milk and not giving her/him. might be that's make bad imression on your baby. and thats not right personally if i would there then i will never allowed this stupid thing. fight for it its your baby and she cant do that.

all the best