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Hi All,
I've been marriend for over 5 years now. Both me and my husband has been living in US for almost 10 years now. We have almost a year old child. My husband and I both work. In-laws came over to 'help' with the baby. But instead of it being just a help - it's turning more into them raising our child the way they want! Didn't they have their turn and now it's our turn to make our household and have our own family? My husband and I both have strong feelings and dreams about how we would like to raise our child. We both agree. I do not tell much to MIL but husband tells MIL if he wants someting done to the baby certain ways. MIL wants to feed our baby anything and everything (indian!). We don't mind as both husband and I are proud of our culture or where we come from. however, our child has some allergies so doctor recommends certain things. But MIL just says that we should not listen to the doctors as they are there to make money. She says that she has more experience in raising kids than us. I agree to that but shouldn't she be just helping us when we ask? I consider us (me and husband) to be a very well knowledgeable parents. We tried to explain to MIL that let us raise our baby the way we want to and only help or give advise when we ask. She does not understand and gets offended.
Girlfriends, help me how I should get this across MIL's head! vd replied. I agree with Veena. We are in Canada and we have moved around 4 countries since she was born. She is 3 years now, but I have always sent her to Day Care. Even when my ILs come on holiday, we communicate to them that we are not going to change her schedule. SHe can come home,at the most 1 hour early.

You are in US, there are many options of day care and believe me they learn lot more there.

Veena replied. Hi ! The minute you asked your inLaws to come into your house to help , this was bound to happen . Its really predictable . Therefore I wouldnt put myself in this situation . Better to send baby to day care than tolerate interpherence day after day after day ..... !!
Anyhow , My suggestion is to educate your MIL in modern ways . If she understands English send her and FIL to take Grandparents classes being run in most hospitals on bringing up children . This will update their knowlege. Hopefully open their minds to modern medicine .
Best of luck