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I am a very bitter and tired soul. pls help!

The story is same as of the other DILs who are unhappy in the situations they find themselves with their MILs. Even if my in laws taunt me or say anything to me I am not supposed to reply back in anyway, just have to keep quite and ignore them!! They can say anything to me and can get away because they are elders and are like my own parents (ha !!)

I love my husband dearly and so goes with him. He shelters me and encourages me to do my own thing most of the time. but suddenly out of the blue he changes colour and gives me lectures and lectures of not working equally in house chores with my MIL. Though I extend myself fully to work with her but since I am working and also have a small kid (1 yr) to take care of I am not able to equal my MIL in all the chores. Out of the blue when she leaves for a vacation with FIL for 20-25 days (3-4 trips in a year) I do every chores in the house prepare breakfast, prepare lunch (Husband's grandfather & a pet dog) come back clean home since the little one makes lot of mess, prepare dinner and I am Exhausted by day end!! Can I never complain.my husband does not want to see me tired wants to see me ever chirpy never wants me to say anything about my inlaws and keep smiling always..am I not human!! I am really tired of the whole pretending to be always happy stuff please help! I can't keep quite any more what shall I do!!!
ragini replied. oh dear,

Many working ladies have same probs.
Pls plan to hire maid servants as well so that u can save some energy in labour.
Never try to compete yr MIL. She won't let u win. B sweet to hubby n do not try to complain directly.

good luck Q replied. Dear Friend ,
Your situation is really tough . Here is my advice .
KITCHEN SUGGESTIONS
a) Start cooking in bulk and freezing food like - Dals, Sambhar , Sabzi etc . Feed one portion today then remove from freezer after 3-4 days and feed again.
b) Buy Chapattis from market and freeze for a few days , open the packet when you are too tired to cook just heat and feed .
c) Ask your Mil to cook and freeze too if she is going on a vacation . Its worth asking even if she refuses.
d) Buy a crockpot ( Slow cooker ) before going to work load it and when you come home food will be ready and hot.
f) Buy a Rice cooker to help in the cooking rice . It will keep rice warm too .
g) keep frozen uncooked vegetables in the fridge just open packet and cook they are already cut and cleaned . They cook in half the time too .
HUSBAND's HELP
a) Ask your husband nicely that you need his sweet helping hand to pick up baby toys and put in a lidded container . Let him clean up this mess.
b) Show him your fatigue . Sit down and ask him to make a cup of tea for both of you as you are feeling tired.
MIL
sorry , I have no solution for MIL problem . They are just painful sores.
Hope my suggestions help
Q