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I do not like the way my children are raising their kids. they hardly have time for the kids and whenever they have time, they indulge them. I am afraid that these will spoil them and make them spoil brats. How can i tell them? Rahul replied. Every parent has a right to raise their kids the way they want to. If someone interferes in their way then it might lead to a feud. You need to understand that times have changed. The world has become more materialistic. You as a grand parent may never come to terms with the current changing world. In this case you should try to bond with the kids. Make them understand the pros and cons of their current lifestyle. There is a better chance of grand kids listening to you, rather than their parents. Smriti Rajkul replied. Grandparents who attempt to blur the line between parent and grandparent roles will not only interfere with the parenting relationship, but will detract from the unique relationship they could have with their grandchildren. There are also times when grown children may do something, as parents, that is misinformed or just wrong. One way to handle this situation is to talk to the grown child privately. Express concerns. Most reasonable parents will listen to their parents' concerns. Most want to do what is best for the children. Manmeet Sodhi replied. You as a grandparent should not interfere with parenting grandchildren because it is the right of your children. there' s a difference between a grandparent' s being available to give support when needed and a grandparent' s attempts to interfere. finding that fine line between being supportive and interfering is difficult. when you were a parent, you also did not like interference so same is the case with your kids. What you can do is to give them your opinion in a gentle manner.