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I think that our Inlaws are able to be so inhuman and cruel to us because our husbands let them . Should our husbands not be strong enough to mediate ? Define boundaries ? Create respect for both sides ? After all arent they the ones who share vital bonds with us and their parents . Why do they let their wives be harrased by inlaws and accept injustice . Thats why Mil's can be rude ,behave badly and the DIL will suffer and keep apologizing to manipulative MiL's while our Husbands watch and ask us to forget .
Before we tackle our Mil's shouldnt we first see our Husband's behaviour and strength of Character ?
Shouldnt a husband be the strong wall protecting us ?
a dil replied. Yes, I strongly feel that too. Husbands dont take any responsibility whereas they can play a vital role here and many problems can be solved. Mother's will try to understand the problem if their dear son will explain the reasons properly instead of asking the wife to forget and bear the grudge which will increase with time.
But, in some cases as in mine .. my in-laws werent ready to hear from my husband and told him that he has changed after marriage and has become arrogant because his wife is earning and doesnt want to share the money with them because he is a joru-ka-ghulaam. They also told my neice ki chachi ne chacha ke upar jaadu kiyaa hai to nai chachi laayenge.. result - we moved out and keep very less contact with them. Problem was my husband used to give all his money to them before marriage and even though he had bought the car wasnt allowed to drive though he is a good driver because his bro is very dominating and he is not allowed to talk in front of him.. (couldnt beleive ki aaj bhi aisa hotaa hai). and then after marriage when he wanted to explain my or his situation..(i was pregnant and am working and had to travel 1 hour in Delhi's heat)... they were surprised that how he has started to speak.!!! :( a dil replied. Yes, I strongly feel that too. Husbands dont take any responsibility whereas they can play a vital role here and many problems can be solved. Mother's will try to understand the problem if their dear son will explain the reasons properly instead of asking the wife to forget and bear the grudge which will increase with time.
But, in some cases as in mine .. my in-laws werent ready to hear from my husband and told him that he has changed after marriage and has become arrogant because his wife is earning and doesnt want to share the money with them because he is a joru-ka-ghulaam. They also told my neice ki chachi ne chacha ke upar jaadu kiyaa hai to nai chachi laayenge.. result - we moved out and keep very less contact with them. Problem was my husband used to give all his money to them before marriage and even though he had bought the car wasnt allowed to drive though he is a good driver because his bro is very dominating and he is not allowed to talk in front of him.. (couldnt beleive ki aaj bhi aisa hotaa hai). and then after marriage when he wanted to explain my or his situation..(i was pregnant and am working and had to travel 1 hour in Delhi's heat)... they were surprised that how he has started to speak.!!! :(