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My son aged 3.5 years has been taken by my Inlaws to native place and placed in school there. He adores them and has been with them for about 3 months now. They say that I and hubby should relax for some time and that I should take up educational courses. They also fuss a lot about his health, education upbringing etc. My hubby is confused. I want to put him in school here and be with me . Inlaws say till he is 5 yrs old and managable he can be with them.
SMK replied. Are you nuts?? Its your child. No one else gets to vote here. What you want to do with your child is your decision ONLY. Nobody & nobody has a right to interefere in it. Your giving away your child becoz someone else said so, whats next? Friend replied. Best place for a child to grow is with the parents why because the child sees the parents as its role model. Secondly the parent can watch their child grow and attend its needs. Take back your child and start to address this. Freind/Mother replied. Hello Sukanya,
Do not let them take your Child.
The first 5yrs are is very important,
It is the time when child is attached to the mother. Once the child goes to school they will not be so attached, and if you give your child to your inlaws the child won't have much attachment towards you. You will miss out on the first precious years. I think the Mohter in law should uderstand especially after having childrens of her own and being a women.
Being a mother is what all women aspire to be one day and your inlaws are stealing that experience from you. I know I also had the same problem but I did not give up, I kept my Son, my piece of heaven. A child is a gift from god and the parents need to rais them carfully and gently with love like
a beautiful flower. By rasing a child you also learn something about oneself.
If your mother inlaw is truly thinking the best for the child then she should the best place for the child is where the his or her parents are. A child is not a toy which can be given and taken away anytime you want, they are a gift from god so do not take them for granted. Your inlaws had thier moment with their children so now they should give you the respect and let you and your hubby raise the little one. As a women and a mother the Sasu should undertand this. The mother in law is being selfish in my oppinon. Please let me know what the out come of this. nina replied. Be strong and get him back or tell your in-laws to stay with you and help you out. What is the point of having children just to give away. Don't you want to be there when your baby lerarns how to walk/talk/laugh... Preety replied. Hi there. I am sorry if I am confusing you even more, but what is the point of having children just to give them away to grandparents for the 1st precious years. Get him back or he won't be yours.
Radhika replied. Hi,
I too face the same problem - but some more critical. My in-laws also want my 8 month old baby to be with them. But I didn't allow it and she is stil with me. But they r compelling me as and when I face problems with my maid, who looks after the baby when I go to work. They say that it will be safer for her to be with them than the maid. But I think that, even if she is with maid the whole day, I will be there in the night and on holidays.
However, I don't want her to be taken away from me. My hubby also supports me. But, at times he becomes confused.

regards,
Radhika friend replied. Hi Sukanya,
A child has to be with his parents, not his grandparents. I cant imagine how u have allowed them to take him away. Did u let them take when they asked or did u fight and finally they won? Where r u staying? Whichever place it might be, ur child shd be with u. So be firm, get courage and talk with ur husband. Tell him that u want ur son back to be with u both. If they want u both to relax, u can do it even when ur son is with u. For few hours u can keep him with a babysitter in a creche and that time u can do ur courses. But atleast he will be with u the rest of the time. Dont give up. I had read in a magazine of a teen girl who had stayed with her grandparents for 15-16 years and then been taken by her parents but she hated staying with her parents as she was very used to being with her grandparents. So in 2-3 years, your son might get too attached with his grandparents. So dont let it happen. Keep your son with you but frequently try to go to native and let him meet ur in-laws. That why they too get to see him and also he wont miss his parents love. Hope u will make the right decision. Do write to me if u want any more help.