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Hi All,
I am a full-time working mom with 7 and 4 yrs olds.
My daughter (7 yr old) is acting/growing very sensitive. She
gets angry for small things and increases her voice and starts to argue, sometime screams in high pitch.
It' s usually for the small things like races/competition she does along with her small brother.
Like if who is drinking their milk faster, who takes bath first.....etc.
Also, for few other petty things like, Not wanting to wear a particular shirt, Not wanting to brush her teeth as soon as wakes up..... (takes nearly 20 mins just for this!)
Because of this, I am really worried that my little one is also going to be spoiled which I see already a little as he screams to the toppest when he gets angry/frustrated and runs to hit her.
(he sometime even hit our faces..rarely though). I am really worried about this whole thing.
I don' t believe in hitting kids.. (very very very very rare... may be a 2 times so far in all these years.)
But their Dad on the other hand is very short tempered and hits often which he is trying to stop these days after my continuous reminders & arguments, fights over this issue.
Kids play and don' t clean-up... we feel bad, but wont take action every single time. Try to give warning/reminders a few days. Then I strictly say on one day, today they both have to clean-up their toys & all the mess before moving further.
There comes again this arguement. Well, it was him who did the mess, then Why should I clean-up?! It' s not fair...etc. And a big cry, scream...
Not asking them to clean-up everyday, Is it bad? May be I/We should be consistent?!

I told my daughter to behave, not to talk back for each and everything we say...being polite, controling anger.. both in very nice hearty talk + with all my anger and venting over..
But nothing seemed to help. These days me and my hubby (my idea) even stopped to do any small arguments and we take it afterwards when kids aren' t watching us! - Though this is happening to the fullest yet, I am trying to get this going ultimately.
Where/What am I missing? What else should I do?!

Please share your suggestions.... Thanks a lot in advance.
Pooja replied. One more thing regarding her not gettingr eady , a friend of mine did a classic !! she actually took her 4 year old in paylamas to school and never did that problem arise again !!.. I dont approve of it as it may hurt their confidence , but try it .. at leats put her in the car in her night clothes.. see if that works.. veeru replied. Griji hi..

I pressume both your kids going to school.. tell your daughter that you would complain her teacher if she would listen to you. Is it possible that she is following someone at home... who has similar habits..!

anyways... good luck Girija replied. Hello all parents,

Please take a min. to share your opinions, your suggestions are most appreciated. Surely they will make me feel a little calmed down. Please....