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I have a son who is 12yrs ,he behaves so rudely with me n my daughter who is younger to him. He doesnt obey me at all ,he tells me not to talk.Not to reveal any of his mischief r bad behaviour before the father.He always argues with me.Is this cause he is entering into teens?
He likes his granny more [who doesnt stay with us but visits us ]I feel he is rather more attached to her cause she always protects n supports.My husband tells me that it is my fault to think since iam incapable to locate the problem n try to solve.H e is weak in studies also,never listens n puts little effort.Here for everything iam blamed.If I try to discuss with my husband ,he says u should know more than him then only u will bwe able to control.I really dont know what to do. He behaves like a boss.
We have lot of differences[me n my hubby] ,so is it the impact he is showing.He teases me for being bit heavy n also not knowing driving n passing comments.I dont mind even if he teases me but he should be polite in the society.He gets complaints in school too about his misbehaviour n low grades.My husband throws all the blame on me.
Pls suggest me .should I be silent r try to explain ,but if I do this we enter into fight .PLS help me with a good suggestion.
Thanks Pete replied. Hi Nehal,

I really understand your situation. Here you alone cannot do anyting. Your Hubby also need to cooperate. If your child has grown up seeing you always getting negative comments from your hubby, then he would have registered you as a not for good mom and lady. Hence its very important for parents not to argue or comment on each other in front of their kids. Tell your hubby not to pass any comments in front of the kids. He has already caused the damage to the 1st child, at least he can avoid it with the 2nd child.

Politely ask your hubby, before commenting on you, why don' t he switch roles for a month and then comment on you. Like for one month let him do all the work of a mother.

Kids when they are small, their parents are heroes. So they make opinion about them even at their your age. And their opinion off course would be based on their parents actions and comments they hear. So if they heat positive , they think positive and vise versa.

The best approach to this problem is to speak to your son in a polite manner. He needs to understand what he is doing and the life he is living is not going to take him anywhere. Now its tough to make a 12 year old understand. You need to figure out a way that best suits your son' s nature. At this age its best to be polite and cool instead of taking the stick or getting harsh.

Please note: the comments and suggestion in this post is not intended to hurt you and anyone reading this post.

Cheers!

Pete