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My case is not very different from the others listed here except I am the sister-in-law. My parents seem to be behaving like the mil & fil mentioned here. My brother and bhabi live with our parents. He from day one has supported my bhabi. they have a good relationship between themselves. He infact has told even before marriage that he will support his wife 100% if he thinks she is right. My parents don't like that. They do not treat her side of the family very well when they come to visit her. They keep telling their version of events to anybody they know. They always make my bro and sil the bad people. My bro is really angry right now. My mom was recently diagnosed with serious illness. she is undergoing drastic treatment for this. My brother says he cannot leave our parents at this time and move to his own place. My sil on the other hand is a sweet girl. She behaves well with me and my sister. she is kind to our children and we are always treated cordially by her. She does not even open her mouth to my parents when they comment on her/her husband. My parents have a very old fashioned way of thinking. They have double standards with us and their dil. When I pointed out to them that they are doing wrong, they were upset with me. They are saying that I am not grateful to them etc etc etc. I do not worry about jeopardizing my relationship with them if it will help my bro and sil get some peace. what should I / they do now? augustborn replied. Wow...I really wish you were my SIL!

But coming back to your problem, just give all the support you can to your brothers wife. She will know that even if hers PIL's dont love her..you guys do. It will help her ignore the rest especially during these difficult times when your mom is ill...
Keep us posted... Shazia replied. Hat's off to you woman for actually wanting to help your brother's marriage get better and not believing your parents. Most of the time SIL aare the main ingredients in creating problems & adding fuel to the fire. With your thinking I feel you will help them and things wil get better eventually. Keep up the spirit and I hope some other SIL can learn a lesson from this lady. She is one in a million! wannabe replied. Hey ur SIL is really very lucky 2 have a person like u with her. I think ur bro should stay with ur parents for the time being. a daughter, sister and a sil replied. Thanks friends for all your support. The situation has not changed yet. My parents and bro/babi are not talking to each other. I cannot talk to my parents coz they are beyond reasoning. They are denying that they are ill-treating my sil. They are saying that they are providing her everything she needs so she is not suffering. WTH? she is not receiving love or atleast care from them and I know as a dil that is all you want. I cannot severe my relation ship with them cos like I said my mom is very sick. I have left it to God now. Anyways, thanks for all your support guys. You all make me feel better.
god bless. friend replied. It is nice to know that you are a woman who has the ability to judge a person fairly. I think if all sister-in-laws think likewise,the problems that come in a married life is much easier to handle. Atleast the girl feels there is one more person in her in-laws house other than her husband who cares about her.

For one,you can talk to your parents and ask them how they would feel if it were you in her(sis-in-law)position. Make them realize that times have changed. Everybody needs to be treated equally. Tell them that what goes round will come round some day. This is just the law of nature. The more love they give,the more they will get. The more torture evenly verbally they cause anyone,the more torture they are going to have to endure in their lifetime. Also scare them that you will severe YOUR ties with them if they behave in a bad fashion. I am sure this will be enough for them to think twice before they do anything. I am sure they would not want to lose you. Try this and keep us posted.
XYZ replied. Hi !
I think you brother should move out , in order to save his relationship with his parents . It must be a torture for your SIL too even though she is being patient . Before the atmosphere becomes poisonous he should move out .
Good luck XYZ replied. Hi !
I think you brother should move out , in order to save his relationship with his parents . It must be a torture for your SIL too even though she is being patient . Before the atmosphere becomes poisonous he should move out .
Good luck AMRI replied. i wish i had u as my SIL.
We really would have got along.
ALways support the person who u feel is right.